everything else is secondary.

When I worked and lived in Philly at a large corporation, most the upper execs only had wives and kids as a part of their portfolio of success along with CC memberships and living in exclusive developments. Their kids hated them and were always getting in trouble, wrecking fancy cars and busted for drugs, failing in school. The execs threw money at their wives and kids to salve their consciences....and still plenty of the wives had affairs or divorced them.