contact over the years, but lived in different states. She started writing me on my mission about half way through, every week. Then she stopped 2 months or so before I got home.

After I got home, she ended up messaging me that she was all in and was planning on marrying me (we had never been on a date, heck we hadn't even seen each other in person since we were 14-15) but then she met a guy and it was love at first sight, so she was super sorry for "dumping/breaking up" with me...

Needless to say I was pretty confused haha (the loose communication over the years and then the letters she wrote were all just surface level, "how was your week", "my week was good" etc, nothing ever personal or intimate etc)