Usually I was slow to ask girls out so I often knew them pretty well before the first date. I was dating my now wife. We were went out most weekends and spent a lot of time together during the week. Probably should have had the “talk”. I was at her apartment. I felt we were exclusive, but had not made that official.

She gets a call. We are holding hands. She talks to someone and it totally sounded like they were planing a date. I asked her who that was. She tells me a guys name. I said did you just accept a date while I’m here holding your hand? I was not happy. She could tell. I got up and said I have some things to do. She said, I did set up a date, sorry we have never said we were only dating each other. I still think she did it to push me into the “talk” It was true but I still was not happy. We ended up having the talk right then. She called him and apologized and declined the date.

This was the weird part to me…I find out it was a guy from my mission. I liked him on the mission but that changed fast. He found out he knew me. He kept trying to ask my my wife out even after we were engaged. He would tell her why I wasn’t good for her, why it wouldn’t work out.