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Nov 14, 2024
4:08:53pm

quantum valeat Redshirt Freshman

I feel like all the comments seem correct.

Okay, don't sit around doing nothing forever. (Do you guys not have side hustles??) But also, there is so much to do at home. If someone wants to pay you to help your wife, that sounds great!

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Originally posted on Nov 14, 2024 at 4:08:53pm

Message parent changed from https://www.cougarboard.com/board/message.html?id=34222195 to https://www.cougarboard.com/board/message.html?id=34218160 by quantum valeat on Nov 14, 2024 at 4:09:19pm

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So insane- I’ve got a member of my team who will be off 12 paid weeks for birth

SBB

7:39am

Remember us thinking it was crazy generous when husband got 2 weeks off for our kids.

Soupie

7:41am

I never had more than 1 or 2. Today, I’d trade half my 401k to have been able to

snowbird

7:57am

Never got a single paid day off for the births of my three kids. Jelly.

PGVikingDad

7:42am

Same.

7:44am

I got a the day off because I had an awesome boss for the first two.

SBB

7:46am

Overly generous?

chrisoc13

12:22pm

Last I checked you get paid to do a job- I was grateful. He didn’t have to

SBB

2:22pm

Same

Reasonable1

7:57am

Thats Got me thinking about getting my vasectomy reversed!

pinolero

7:42am

My son-in-law gets this where he works.

BYUforlife

7:43am

We allow it to be spilt in half

SBB

7:44am

I took 3 or 4 days of vacation then went back to work.

7:45am

Times are changing. I absolutely took my job with their paternity leave in mind.

aplusfan

7:45am

There’s a happy medium- someone has to pay that benefit and I know you’re

SBB

7:48am

I’m all for the benefit but maybe not all at once

CasualFan

7:45am

I took 3 days off for my twins' birth and then went into work on the weekend bc I had a trial on the following Monday

byujag

7:46am

I was literally guilted for taking 4 days when my twins were born.

VinnyBYU

7:56am

I took a week off using paid vacation for all of my kids...

WJCougar

7:46am

My company does 13 weeks for dads. Minimum of a week at a time. I've had 2 people use it this year.

Filiberto

7:46am

I wouldn’t take it. My personal opinion is that it’s a bad look. I agree with

ChiCityCoug

7:48am

It’s all vacation for a guy after 2 weeks typically. I’m sure there are exceptio

SBB

7:50am

It's a bad look to bond with your newborn child?

NGB

8:02am

Is that what I said? That’s weird I swear I didn’t say that.

ChiCityCoug

8:26am

If you’re sitting at home wondering what to do with yourself, or feel like

royal_blue

8:06am

I’m not saying life after a kid is easy and that we as dads shouldn’t help I’m

ChiCityCoug

8:32am

And if a company or manager is such a dumpster fire that they can’t survive

royal_blue

8:42am

it depends on the size of the company

rotorhead

8:45am

This is ridiculous. Give some credit to Mom, Bro. They don’t need three months to get back on their feet. 12 weeks is

SolidBlue

8:51am

No offense but you seem like someone who has not a clue how to prioritize your

royal_blue

11:02am

Names his son "captain", lectures others on parenting. lol

NGB

11:09am

Now doubt his wife is his equal. But rather kind of equal as it was defined

JosephAllenMaldonado

11:55am

<< Deleted >>

SolidBlue

2:23pm

Oh, okay… somebody should tell her that. I mean she seems pretty happy with me and all. Even after 7 kids.

SolidBlue

2:58pm

Tell me you could be replaced in 2 days at your job without telling me.

ChiCityCoug

8:52am

Tell me your wife could replace you in 2 days without telling me 😂

royal_blue

11:13am

Haha I hope not!

ChiCityCoug

11:27am

If you worry that your company might not want you back if you took this leave, it’s not the leave that’s the problem

spinner

9:16am

I work for a very lean company and therefore duplicative roles are

ChiCityCoug

9:35am

If a company offers an employee a 12 week leave but then would cut them for actually taking it

spinner

10:15am

Or just a disconnect between executives pushing a 12 week leave to appear

ChiCityCoug

10:30am

And I would define that as a problem

spinner

10:34am

I agree, which is why offering 12 weeks at a company is strange to me, because

ChiCityCoug

10:39am

I wonder how many of those co-workers and employers will be at your bedside when

Tiburon

10:18am

Haha yeah yeah yeah, I’ve heard this one before. What this silly hypothetical

ChiCityCoug

10:33am

My wife and I started early. I was building my own business working 60-80 hrs a week.

SolidBlue

3:56pm

He said after 2 months, not 2 weeks.

VenomFarmer

5:07pm

No, he said 2-4 weeks or "by the second month" not after two months.

royal_blue

5:56pm

Oh man, 12 weeks isn’t enough. It’s often called bonding time and that’s a

Lefty24

7:08pm

Why are people 👎 this post? Snowbird what’s the issue with what I posted? Does

SBB

7:57am

We don't really have anyone that can fill in for me. The work just piles up

Ferb

7:57am

Oh it suck’s- I get punished for it as it affects revenue

SBB

7:59am

My wife has to deliver our kids by C-section, so the extra time is legit helpful

ldssdl

7:59am

Same my wife had 4 c sections. I was still working for the most part but was able to work from home.

Nuke

8:21am

Do they get lots of vacation as well? If not just think of it as an equalizer.

Yiowa

8:00am

My buddy took his 12 weeks and then found out he got laid off

jaromp

8:01am

Yeah I know there’s some legal protections on maternity leave and paternity

ChiCityCoug

8:34am

Sorry you didn’t get time off or take time off. Company loyalty doesn’t

The Pope

8:04am

My wife gave birth to four of our children while I was in the military

Goliath

8:04am

My company has 12 weeks paternity and it is one reason I am still there.

8:07am

I know people who get 16 weeks.

JuicyJam

8:07am

We get 16 weeks of paternity leave at my company. Unfortunately we are done

Duke Silver

8:22am

Too bad. Every year you don't have a kid, you're leaving money on the table.

RoboKayne

2:45pm

It seems some guys think it's either lame to take time off, or admirable to

8:18am

Why be bothered, isn’t this just the free market at work?

spinner

8:31am

Yep, wages have stagnated for decades, this is one small comp for that

Mitty

11:15am

I left work at 1. Baby was born at 2:30. I took the next day off. Back to work

O Gaucho

9:23am

1 day off? That’s soft *tic*. This reminds me of a Monty python skit

Reasonable1

9:30am

Similar story here. Worked Wed. Baby born Thurs. Back at work Friday afternoon.

9:35am

I worked at a company that was too small. I ended up quitting to have the time

Tiburon

10:13am

I never had paid time for my kids, but I'm all for it. Happy to see people

Mitty

11:07am

It was crazy in my old company because the Americans would take a long weekend

RoboKayne

2:37pm

I got 4 weeks this summer. I did 2 weeks full time and 4 weeks half time. It was

Brute66

2:39pm

I get 21 weeks, full pay, bonus, and PTO accrual. I’m 10 weeks in with my first

4thand19

2:44pm

The problem is small companies cannot do that. It would ruin them for emoloyees

Schultz is back

7:41pm

I feel like all the comments seem correct.

4:08pm

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