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Sep 25, 2024
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zetta
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Does someone with zero knowledge of medical terminology and no formal education
qualify to be a nurse aid?
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Help, HCBW hates me - what should I do?
zetta
Sep 24, 10:48am
RE: Help, HCBW hates me - what should I do?
IGlowInTheDark
Sep 24, 10:50am
Find reports of the scam online to show her it's a scam.
Archaea
Sep 24, 10:51am
I cannot find reports of this exact same thing
zetta
Sep 24, 10:53am
It follows all of the scam techniques. It's a scam.
Archaea
Sep 24, 11:00am
Preferably from the FBI if you can or other legal sources.
Mister P
Sep 24, 11:00am
The link to reddit shows it's a scam.
Archaea
Sep 24, 11:45am
You kind of buried the lead here. Do you have a terminal illness?
JuicyJam
Sep 24, 10:52am
Stage IV metastatic cancer
zetta
Sep 24, 10:54am
Yikes. So sorry! What a tough situation for you and your family.
runningfoo
Sep 24, 12:40pm
Call the local police station and see if you can talk to someone about scams and
rebelCoug
Sep 24, 10:56am
Local police will be of great assistance in tracking scammers in Vietnam
zetta
Sep 24, 10:58am
He's not saying to do it to find the scammers... you might want to do it so the cops can verify to you/your wife that it
HarlemCoug
Sep 24, 11:12am
PS - while you try to prove it's a scam... have her try to prove it's not. Have her show examples of people who have
HarlemCoug
Sep 24, 11:32am
I'm guessing even the cops wouldn't be able to convince her.
OrsoNero
Sep 24, 11:32am
But... verification from the cops is prob all the OP really needs to put a stop to the flow of funds. He's able to
HarlemCoug
Sep 24, 11:38am
That's a fair point. "Sorry, honey, the police said. . ."
OrsoNero
Sep 24, 11:42am
State AGs and FBI have more information about this sort of thing
Archaea
Sep 24, 11:00am
If only you knew the background of our meeting and the subsequent visit with FBI
zetta
Sep 24, 11:41am
Yikes...I would definitely not keep adding money to that account
volleyjiver
Sep 24, 10:57am
I offered to take her to the bank to discuss and she refused
zetta
Sep 24, 11:01am
Deep down she knows it's a scam...but she's blaming you for it.
volleyjiver
Sep 24, 11:04am
Keep it real: "This is a scam. I don't support it. I understand how you feel."
Plantagenet
Sep 24, 10:58am
Don’t do it. Giving her the money to give to the scammer won’t help your relationship.
Cougar-Duck
Sep 24, 10:58am
I don't believer her at all when she says if she gets the money she won't ask
Y05
Sep 25, 4:53am
Have you looked at possible legitimate alternatives to help her find a way to start making money?
Black Diamond Bay
Sep 24, 11:01am
Any suggestions for a job she can do? I told you her background
zetta
Sep 24, 11:20am
Go to ward employment specialist or a head hunter.
Archaea
Sep 24, 12:50pm
Nurse aides in skilled nursing facilities can make decent money and are in high demand. Where do you live?
Ironhide
Sep 25, 2:15am
Does someone with zero knowledge of medical terminology and no formal education
zetta
Sep 25, 4:22am
At a nursing home, yes. They often do on the job training because there is a huge need and not enough people available
Ironhide
Sep 25, 8:37am
It's only money. Write on paper "if x happens next" she must be done w/ this.
quantum valeat
Sep 24, 11:01am
And see a marriage counselor.
quantum valeat
Sep 24, 11:04am
She needs to hear it from someone she trusts, besides you. Friend, family member
Pro Logic
Sep 24, 11:01am
She literally only has friend who already helped her, she doesn't want my family
zetta
Sep 24, 11:06am
She will learn the hard way, but don't support it.
Plantagenet
Sep 24, 11:10am
Tell her you need to take care of your son and that you are going to put that
Chester Copperpot
Sep 24, 11:06am
Youre lucky you are only at 6k right now. We have an employee that is falling
md7Coug
Sep 24, 11:08am
Why doesn't he get it? Let him lose all of the money and see if he gets it.
Plantagenet
Sep 24, 11:11am
Unfortunately him losing all his money will negatively impact us. We are lookin
md7Coug
Sep 24, 11:12am
He still won't get it even after that. I've seen it, they'll blame someone else
Chester Copperpot
Sep 24, 11:13am
"Experience is a dear school."
Plantagenet
Sep 24, 1:43pm
So she paid $3,000 and made $140. Does she not understand basic math?
WJCougar
Sep 24, 11:09am
The scammers are very good at deceiving people who are vulnerable
zetta
Sep 24, 11:24am
I assume this is TIC.......
gopman
Sep 24, 11:10am
Not funny if it is.
SBB
Sep 24, 11:26am
Doesn't read like TIC to me.
OrsoNero
Sep 24, 11:29am
Trolling.
gopman
Sep 24, 11:30am
Least attention-seeking troll ever. OP has 27 posts in 14 years.
OrsoNero
Sep 24, 11:35am
If true this is a much bigger issue of "frame". Not a comfortable
gopman
Sep 24, 11:40am
It's not comfortable, but CB is very helpful in this sort of situation.
OrsoNero
Sep 24, 11:48am
Being able to set boundaries is important in any relationship.
gopman
Sep 24, 12:15pm
Very very uncomfortable
zetta
Sep 24, 12:15pm
No way
STL
Sep 24, 11:35am
Assuming it were not a scam, why can't she earn out her investment first?
OrsoNero
Sep 24, 11:28am
That is her compromise to me but we have to send $5,000 more to get added tasks
zetta
Sep 24, 11:43am
Why would any legitimate job require YOU the employee/contractor spend money
Archaea
Sep 24, 11:45am
exactly
zetta
Sep 24, 12:39pm
Some scammers play it very well. The point is to get as much money flowing
Plantagenet
Sep 24, 1:49pm
Bring in the cops. Make her meet w them w you.
YSMACK
Sep 24, 11:36am
Some people need to learn the hard way.
materialized
Sep 24, 11:40am
Here's a Reddit post discussing the scam. Not sure that will be enough though
CosmosMeow
Sep 24, 11:40am
This is what I saw and tried to convince her with
zetta
Sep 24, 11:46am
If that's the case, I don't see any way to convince her.
OrsoNero
Sep 24, 11:47am
It's not about convincing her. It's about setting & enforcing boundaries.
gopman
Sep 24, 12:31pm
Frame.
gopman
Sep 24, 11:41am
This is super sticky. Simple answer, Id keep trying to convince her. If it doesn't work, I wouldn't give her the money.
TRUE_BLUE_COUGY
Sep 24, 11:52am
This^^^ No way do I fund more and I'd pull out any & all money there might still be in the account then close it.
Soupie
Sep 24, 1:30pm
Let her be angry because she may need the money once you're gone.
Archaea
Sep 24, 1:32pm
Yes. Explicity tell her this.
Plantagenet
Sep 24, 1:51pm
This isn’t meant to sound mean, but suggest that she DoorDash/Uber Eats for
Ikuna
Sep 24, 12:14pm
Driving is not a strength - she only got her license about a year ago
zetta
Sep 24, 12:49pm
The strain of knowing she will lose you and being responsible for the child must
scrambled egg
Sep 24, 12:18pm
I have learned from personal experience in these situations things will be all
Plantagenet
Sep 24, 1:54pm
Apologies for prying, but how long have you been married? Wasn't there
Emmett Fitz-Hume
Sep 24, 12:29pm
Married for 3.5 years, met online about 6 years ago, both alone with no friends
zetta
Sep 24, 12:45pm
Are you active at church?
Black Diamond Bay
Sep 24, 1:32pm
The Church has very good resources to help her develop self-reliance based on
Plantagenet
Sep 24, 1:56pm
On my way home from infusion treatment - feeling numb from head to toe
zetta
Sep 24, 1:49pm
Don't do it. Been there with the serious cancer at a younger age. She'll need the $$ & be even more mad
Soupie
Sep 24, 1:52pm
You should never knowingly get scammed
Blue Cougar
Sep 24, 1:49pm
Are you in Utah? Maybe CB can help with leads for jobs...
homegrown
Sep 24, 2:17pm
Based on his posting history, he is in Spring, Texas.
RootieBoy
Sep 24, 2:24pm
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DKN
Sep 24, 3:46pm
Check out Amazon Mechanical Turk a legit way for her to do some work at home, and maybe she will forget the scam one.
Mobojo
Sep 25, 12:50am
You can't control your wife. Set boundaries. If she chooses a bad marriage that
maYbe
Sep 25, 6:54am
How did y’all meet?
Cheesy Gordita
Sep 25, 12:51pm
Online.
Y05
Sep 25, 12:58pm
This is both your monies. Would she support putting your money on red? My
hitechcpa
Sep 25, 2:47pm
Have her do an online cybersecurity certification course. You can Google
BringYourUltimate
Sep 25, 8:14pm
Still thinking about your post when I came across this YouTube video about scams
ninja coug
Sep 28, 8:08pm
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