If that's the case, I don't see any way to convince her.

Sep 24, 2024
11:47:32am

OrsoNero Intervention Needed

In fact, you could probably give her thousands more just to keep the peace, and she'd be back asking for the next tier of money to level up.

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Author

Time

Help, HCBW hates me - what should I do?

zetta

10:48am

RE: Help, HCBW hates me - what should I do?

IGlowInTheDark

10:50am

Find reports of the scam online to show her it's a scam.

Archaea

10:51am

I cannot find reports of this exact same thing

zetta

10:53am

It follows all of the scam techniques. It's a scam.

Archaea

11:00am

Preferably from the FBI if you can or other legal sources.

Mister P

11:00am

The link to reddit shows it's a scam.

Archaea

11:45am

You kind of buried the lead here. Do you have a terminal illness?

JuicyJam

10:52am

Stage IV metastatic cancer

zetta

10:54am

Yikes. So sorry! What a tough situation for you and your family.

runningfoo

12:40pm

Call the local police station and see if you can talk to someone about scams and

rebelCoug

10:56am

Local police will be of great assistance in tracking scammers in Vietnam

zetta

10:58am

He's not saying to do it to find the scammers... you might want to do it so the cops can verify to you/your wife that it

HarlemCoug

11:12am

PS - while you try to prove it's a scam... have her try to prove it's not. Have her show examples of people who have

HarlemCoug

11:32am

I'm guessing even the cops wouldn't be able to convince her.

OrsoNero

11:32am

But... verification from the cops is prob all the OP really needs to put a stop to the flow of funds. He's able to

HarlemCoug

11:38am

That's a fair point. "Sorry, honey, the police said. . ."

OrsoNero

11:42am

State AGs and FBI have more information about this sort of thing

Archaea

11:00am

If only you knew the background of our meeting and the subsequent visit with FBI

zetta

11:41am

Yikes...I would definitely not keep adding money to that account

volleyjiver

10:57am

I offered to take her to the bank to discuss and she refused

zetta

11:01am

Deep down she knows it's a scam...but she's blaming you for it.

volleyjiver

11:04am

Keep it real: "This is a scam. I don't support it. I understand how you feel."

Plantagenet

10:58am

Don’t do it. Giving her the money to give to the scammer won’t help your relationship.

Cougar-Duck

10:58am

Have you looked at possible legitimate alternatives to help her find a way to start making money?

Black Diamond Bay

11:01am

Any suggestions for a job she can do? I told you her background

zetta

11:20am

Go to ward employment specialist or a head hunter.

Archaea

12:50pm

It's only money. Write on paper "if x happens next" she must be done w/ this.

quantum valeat

11:01am

And see a marriage counselor.

quantum valeat

11:04am

She needs to hear it from someone she trusts, besides you. Friend, family member

Pro Logic

11:01am

She literally only has friend who already helped her, she doesn't want my family

zetta

11:06am

She will learn the hard way, but don't support it.

Plantagenet

11:10am

Tell her you need to take care of your son and that you are going to put that

Chester Copperpot

11:06am

Youre lucky you are only at 6k right now. We have an employee that is falling

md7Coug

11:08am

Why doesn't he get it? Let him lose all of the money and see if he gets it.

Plantagenet

11:11am

Unfortunately him losing all his money will negatively impact us. We are lookin

md7Coug

11:12am

He still won't get it even after that. I've seen it, they'll blame someone else

Chester Copperpot

11:13am

True, but experience is a tough school master.

Plantagenet

1:43pm

So she paid $3,000 and made $140. Does she not understand basic math?

WJCougar

11:09am

The scammers are very good at deceiving people who are vulnerable

zetta

11:24am

I assume this is TIC.......

gopman

11:10am

Not funny if it is.

SBB

11:26am

Doesn't read like TIC to me.

OrsoNero

11:29am

Trolling.

gopman

11:30am

Least attention-seeking troll ever. OP has 27 posts in 14 years.

OrsoNero

11:35am

If true this is a much bigger issue of "frame". Not a comfortable

gopman

11:40am

It's not comfortable, but CB is very helpful in this sort of situation.

OrsoNero

11:48am

Being able to set boundaries is important in any relationship.

gopman

12:15pm

Very very uncomfortable

zetta

12:15pm

No way

STL

11:35am

Assuming it were not a scam, why can't she earn out her investment first?

OrsoNero

11:28am

That is her compromise to me but we have to send $5,000 more to get added tasks

zetta

11:43am

Why would any legitimate job require YOU the employee/contractor spend money

Archaea

11:45am

exactly

zetta

12:39pm

Some scammers play it very well. The point is to get as much money flowing

Plantagenet

1:49pm

Bring in the cops. Make her meet w them w you.

YSMACK

11:36am

Some people need to learn the hard way.

materialized

11:40am

Here's a Reddit post discussing the scam. Not sure that will be enough though

CosmosMeow

11:40am

This is what I saw and tried to convince her with

zetta

11:46am

If that's the case, I don't see any way to convince her.

OrsoNero

11:47am

It's not about convincing her. It's about setting & enforcing boundaries.

gopman

12:31pm

Frame.

gopman

11:41am

This is super sticky. Simple answer, Id keep trying to convince her. If it doesn't work, I wouldn't give her the money.

TRUE_BLUE_COUGY

11:52am

This^^^ No way do I fund more and I'd pull out any & all money there might still be in the account then close it.

Soupie

1:30pm

Let her be angry because she may need the money once you're gone.

Archaea

1:32pm

Yes. Explicity tell her this.

Plantagenet

1:51pm

This isn’t meant to sound mean, but suggest that she DoorDash/Uber Eats for

Ikuna

12:14pm

Driving is not a strength - she only got her license about a year ago

zetta

12:49pm

The strain of knowing she will lose you and being responsible for the child must

scrambled egg

12:18pm

I have learned from personal experience in these situations things will be all

Plantagenet

1:54pm

Apologies for prying, but how long have you been married? Wasn't there

Emmett Fitz-Hume

12:29pm

Married for 3.5 years, met online about 6 years ago, both alone with no friends

zetta

12:45pm

Are you active at church?

Black Diamond Bay

1:32pm

The Church has very good resources to help her develop self-reliance based on

Plantagenet

1:56pm

On my way home from infusion treatment - feeling numb from head to toe

zetta

1:49pm

Don't do it. Been there with the serious cancer at a younger age. She'll need the $$ & be even more mad

Soupie

1:52pm

You should never knowingly get scammed

Blue Cougar

1:49pm

Are you in Utah? Maybe CB can help with leads for jobs...

homegrown

2:17pm

Based on his posting history, he is in Spring, Texas.

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