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Sep 24, 2024
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Archaea
Intervention Needed
State AGs and FBI have more information about this sort of thing
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Help, HCBW hates me - what should I do?
zetta
10:48am
RE: Help, HCBW hates me - what should I do?
IGlowInTheDark
10:50am
Find reports of the scam online to show her it's a scam.
Archaea
10:51am
I cannot find reports of this exact same thing
zetta
10:53am
It follows all of the scam techniques. It's a scam.
Archaea
11:00am
Preferably from the FBI if you can or other legal sources.
Mister P
11:00am
The link to reddit shows it's a scam.
Archaea
11:45am
You kind of buried the lead here. Do you have a terminal illness?
JuicyJam
10:52am
Stage IV metastatic cancer
zetta
10:54am
Yikes. So sorry! What a tough situation for you and your family.
runningfoo
12:40pm
Call the local police station and see if you can talk to someone about scams and
rebelCoug
10:56am
Local police will be of great assistance in tracking scammers in Vietnam
zetta
10:58am
He's not saying to do it to find the scammers... you might want to do it so the cops can verify to you/your wife that it
HarlemCoug
11:12am
PS - while you try to prove it's a scam... have her try to prove it's not. Have her show examples of people who have
HarlemCoug
11:32am
I'm guessing even the cops wouldn't be able to convince her.
OrsoNero
11:32am
But... verification from the cops is prob all the OP really needs to put a stop to the flow of funds. He's able to
HarlemCoug
11:38am
That's a fair point. "Sorry, honey, the police said. . ."
OrsoNero
11:42am
State AGs and FBI have more information about this sort of thing
Archaea
11:00am
If only you knew the background of our meeting and the subsequent visit with FBI
zetta
11:41am
Yikes...I would definitely not keep adding money to that account
volleyjiver
10:57am
I offered to take her to the bank to discuss and she refused
zetta
11:01am
Deep down she knows it's a scam...but she's blaming you for it.
volleyjiver
11:04am
Keep it real: "This is a scam. I don't support it. I understand how you feel."
Plantagenet
10:58am
Don’t do it. Giving her the money to give to the scammer won’t help your relationship.
Cougar-Duck
10:58am
Have you looked at possible legitimate alternatives to help her find a way to start making money?
Black Diamond Bay
11:01am
Any suggestions for a job she can do? I told you her background
zetta
11:20am
Go to ward employment specialist or a head hunter.
Archaea
12:50pm
It's only money. Write on paper "if x happens next" she must be done w/ this.
quantum valeat
11:01am
And see a marriage counselor.
quantum valeat
11:04am
She needs to hear it from someone she trusts, besides you. Friend, family member
Pro Logic
11:01am
She literally only has friend who already helped her, she doesn't want my family
zetta
11:06am
She will learn the hard way, but don't support it.
Plantagenet
11:10am
Tell her you need to take care of your son and that you are going to put that
Chester Copperpot
11:06am
Youre lucky you are only at 6k right now. We have an employee that is falling
md7Coug
11:08am
Why doesn't he get it? Let him lose all of the money and see if he gets it.
Plantagenet
11:11am
Unfortunately him losing all his money will negatively impact us. We are lookin
md7Coug
11:12am
He still won't get it even after that. I've seen it, they'll blame someone else
Chester Copperpot
11:13am
So she paid $3,000 and made $140. Does she not understand basic math?
WJCougar
11:09am
The scammers are very good at deceiving people who are vulnerable
zetta
11:24am
I assume this is TIC.......
gopman
11:10am
Not funny if it is.
SBB
11:26am
Doesn't read like TIC to me.
OrsoNero
11:29am
Trolling.
gopman
11:30am
Least attention-seeking troll ever. OP has 27 posts in 14 years.
OrsoNero
11:35am
If true this is a much bigger issue of "frame". Not a comfortable
gopman
11:40am
It's not comfortable, but CB is very helpful in this sort of situation.
OrsoNero
11:48am
Being able to set boundaries is important in any relationship.
gopman
12:15pm
Very very uncomfortable
zetta
12:15pm
No way
STL
11:35am
Assuming it were not a scam, why can't she earn out her investment first?
OrsoNero
11:28am
That is her compromise to me but we have to send $5,000 more to get added tasks
zetta
11:43am
Why would any legitimate job require YOU the employee/contractor spend money
Archaea
11:45am
exactly
zetta
12:39pm
Bring in the cops. Make her meet w them w you.
YSMACK
11:36am
Some people need to learn the hard way.
materialized
11:40am
Here's a Reddit post discussing the scam. Not sure that will be enough though
CosmosMeow
11:40am
This is what I saw and tried to convince her with
zetta
11:46am
If that's the case, I don't see any way to convince her.
OrsoNero
11:47am
It's not about convincing her. It's about setting & enforcing boundaries.
gopman
12:31pm
Frame.
gopman
11:41am
This is super sticky. Simple answer, Id keep trying to convince her. If it doesn't work, I wouldn't give her the money.
TRUE_BLUE_COUGY
11:52am
This isn’t meant to sound mean, but suggest that she DoorDash/Uber Eats for
Ikuna
12:14pm
Driving is not a strength - she only got her license about a year ago
zetta
12:49pm
The strain of knowing she will lose you and being responsible for the child must
scrambled egg
12:18pm
Apologies for prying, but how long have you been married? Wasn't there
Emmett Fitz-Hume
12:29pm
Married for 3.5 years, met online about 6 years ago, both alone with no friends
zetta
12:45pm
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