My wife and I have a stark agreement. Don't say it is okay if it isn't okay. We are direct with each other and hold each

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Mar 20, 2025
10:11:30am

DJROSS Food Fanatic

My wife and I have a stark agreement. Don't say it is okay if it isn't okay. We are direct with each other and hold each

other accountable for our decisions. It cuts down on the post mortem disappointment or anger that could erupt because one or the other was "pretending" to be okay with something they actually were not okay with.

It doesn't always mean that we adjust our plans or decisions, but there is a space where we are able to express our disappointment or anger without risk of reprisal.

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DJROSS

Bio page: DJROSS
Joined: Sep 10, 2001
Last login: Mar 24, 2025
Total posts: 22,487 (713 FO)

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15 years ago to day I married a U of U grad. So when it was announced on Sunday

King of Y

Mar 20, 8:27am

That was a trap. I think you failed on that one.

OmahaThunderCoug

Mar 20, 8:28am

Yup. Let us know how comfortable that couch is you will be sleeping on. 😂

TADOW

Mar 20, 8:30am

RE: Yup. Let us know how comfortable that couch is you will be sleeping on. 😂

greatbam

Mar 20, 8:47am

Much less comfortable if byu loses

cougaman

Mar 20, 11:03am

Probably not. She'll likely be ecstatic and feel bad for KingofY.

notaboy

Mar 20, 11:30am

I think she failed. She should have supported her husband

CBaass

Mar 20, 8:30am

Nah, we are good. She is RS president and it’s spring break so most of the

King of Y

Mar 20, 8:33am

Your funeral?

bennerc

Mar 20, 8:42am

Rams funeral

flyonawall

Mar 20, 9:24am

RE: Your funeral?

Ungoy

Mar 20, 1:21pm

They always say it's ok, when secretly hoping you'd choose them over sports

mindzeYe

Mar 20, 9:10am

She totally supported me. I was going to get the nose bleed tickets and she told

King of Y

Mar 20, 8:43am

What do you do to your polos that she has to iron them?

TwinsRight

Mar 20, 8:50am

The Y logo is a sewn on patch. It was not laying flat.

King of Y

Mar 20, 9:05am

The difference between ironing and burning is only a matter of degrees. (See

mvtoro

Mar 20, 10:16am

Volunteered ironing = genuine support and probably not begrudging. Good for her.

Ripliancum

Mar 20, 10:54am

That is where you end up with spouses showing up to BYU games in U gear. Just

Shawarma

Mar 20, 10:16am

It was a trap, but he didn’t fail. Don’t submit to traps.

seacougar

Mar 20, 8:38am

Yep. Sometimes failing at one thing is wotprth it for something else

OmahaThunderCoug

Mar 20, 10:18am

100%

byuinva

Mar 20, 1:50pm

No this was a major fail on his wife’s part.

Ten_Hour_Drives

Mar 20, 3:53pm

Your wife is cool. Could have been much worse and it still might.

JAGA97

Mar 20, 8:30am

15 years and you haven't converted her yet?

byuluvr

Mar 20, 8:31am

Well…before we were married she went to several BYU football games with me. Back

King of Y

Mar 20, 10:03am

Could be a huge day for you. A BYU victory and you come home to serve divorce papers. Double win.

TCuz

Mar 20, 8:31am

I know a cure for that issue, but you may need to move to Utah to do it.

Belboz

Mar 20, 8:33am

This is not an uncommon experience, honestly. More than a few have come around

seacougar

Mar 20, 8:35am

This happened with my wife but she’s an Aggie instead of a Ute

CycloneCoug

Mar 20, 8:40am

Any divorce lawyers on the board for this guy?

Mar 20, 8:35am

YOLO.

whirl

Mar 20, 8:41am

his fault for marrying a yewt fan.

indocoug

Mar 20, 1:07pm

RE: 15 years ago to day I married a U of U grad. So when it was announced on

Mar 20, 8:38am

This is what happens when you think with the wrong head. Marry a U of U grad???

Mar 20, 8:43am

I CAN'T BELIVE THIS HAS TO BE SAID BUT......

crimedog

Mar 20, 8:46am

"That's fine. I'll just go see my personal trainer again."

Ham

Mar 20, 9:08am

You failed the test! Dang, on your anniversary!

mindzeYe

Mar 20, 9:08am

It’s an afternoon game. How was there ever any question?

CougarAddict

Mar 20, 9:15am

RE: 15 years ago to day I married a U of U grad. So when it was announced on

Carnac

Mar 20, 9:25am

15 years and you haven't learned a thing

Uno Doctoro

Mar 20, 9:56am

UPDATE: I told her about my post. She wants me to clarify something. Not only

King of Y

Mar 20, 9:58am

So the best gift you can give her is to not be with her on your anniversary?

FanofBYU

Mar 20, 2:00pm

I was gone for just under 5 hours and got home earlier that I normally would

King of Y

Mar 20, 10:38pm

Haha. your wife sounds like a hilariously awesome woman. Cracks me up.

OmahaOmaha

Mar 20, 4:17pm

She is hilarious, awesome and as real of a woman as any man could wish for.

King of Y

Mar 20, 6:51pm

RE: 15 years ago to day I married a U of U grad. So when it was announced on

JDBlue

Mar 20, 10:03am

RE: 15 years ago to day I married a U of U grad. So when it was announced on

VACOUGFAN

Mar 20, 10:07am

My wife and I have a stark agreement. Don't say it is okay if it isn't okay. We are direct with each other and hold each

DJROSS

Mar 20, 10:11am

This is great, but it also relies on both party’s memories lining up on who said

Shawarma

Mar 20, 10:22am

That is why we make sure that all distractions are removed from anything other than the mundane stuff. If it is

DJROSS

Mar 20, 10:29am

This won't last. Women gonna be women.

Accipiter

Mar 20, 10:44am

If you only knew my wife. Emotionally, she is more like a dude and thinks women who act the way you suggest are

DJROSS

Mar 20, 11:50am

I'll help you pack your stuff when you get back to your house.

Haysom Till

Mar 20, 10:18am

15 years you think you would know it was a test that you failed

nbruin

Mar 20, 10:51am

The simping on this post and CB is alarming. If this post gets toasted then the

Ripliancum

Mar 20, 11:08am

I've been there before, here is what you do...

NC1984

Mar 20, 11:46am

Way to respect the good woman’s wishes.

UMWolverine

Mar 20, 12:20pm

If you need divorce advice next week

pappabear246

Mar 20, 12:21pm

RE: 15 years ago to day I married a U of U grad. So when it was announced on

Mar 20, 12:29pm

As my stake president used to say

Mar 20, 12:32pm

RE: 15 years ago to day I married a U of U grad. So when it was announced on

Stucoug83

Mar 20, 12:41pm

Dude, live it up in Denver, because there are some rough & expensive days coming

Mabuhay Coug

Mar 20, 1:11pm

I didn't realize any UofU students ever actually graduated?

BZino

Mar 20, 1:25pm

It’s not hard to graduate from the u of u

pappabear246

Mar 20, 1:32pm

You gave up one of your guaranteed nights and she gets a night to do what she

RC Vikings

Mar 20, 2:35pm

Happy Anniversary, glad they won and could be a good day for you.

Mar 20, 4:22pm

I’m so glad you went!!

Love My Cougs

Mar 20, 4:45pm

It was a blast. I actually made it down to 5th row with the Wisconsin fans

King of Y

Mar 20, 6:18pm

RE: 15 years ago to day I married a U of U grad. So when it was announced on

sah22

Mar 20, 6:20pm

Moral of the story: Don't marry a Ute fan

SaintGeorgeYFan

Mar 20, 7:28pm

And… I made it home for dinner. We went to the church as a fam and set up for

King of Y

Mar 20, 8:32pm

This is my Brother, and she is actual cool like that. His Ex-wife on the other

DevilCougarDragon

Mar 21, 12:19am

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