More accepted perhaps, but that’s not the same thing. You keep trying to minimize it as just “coarse” but it’s much more than just that. Language like this was used to de-humanize Blacks. Blacks weren’t members of the brotherhood of men like you or me, just ‘n-words’. And relegating them to inferior status in this way in turn made it feel OK to enslave them, to establish a hierarchy that put them at the bottom, and to commit unspeakable violence against the ones who fought against that hierarchy, or maybe just didn’t show sufficient deference to it.

The f-word, bad as it may be, never by itself targeted any specific group, and never by itself justified violence.

Maybe kids who don’t know any better sometimes still use to; it’s wrong but we give kids something of a pass in many instances. But no adult today has any excuse for not understanding the meaning of this word and how toxic it is for them to use it, or for minimizing it as mere “coarse language’. It is good that we no longer tolerate this from adults in positions of responsibility. Accept Scalley’s apology by all means, but don’t excuse his use of the word.