I think she knows or has an idea and (probably rightfully so) can't face it

Jan 18, 2024
2:05:07pm

fattycoug Truly Addicted User

I'd be less worried about having THE conversation with her and just be ready for what conversations, behaviors, etc that you may end up having a long the way.

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Tapping into the CB universe regarding talking about death w/ terminally ill

Tare

Jan 18, 1:40pm

Jeez, I'm afraid I have no advice but prayers for you as you go through this. It's an incredibly tough situation and

Clark Addison

Jan 18, 1:43pm

No advice, just well wishes and empathy. Can't even imagine how difficult. We

BYUtka

Jan 18, 1:45pm

I'm praying for you. I'm sorry you've had to go through this.

Sandy Lyle

Jan 18, 1:46pm

What do the doctors and social workers recommend?

Archaea

Jan 18, 1:48pm

It kind of runs the spectrum. No right answer

Tare

Jan 18, 1:58pm

I think that’s the challenge. In a world of so many self-described experts, there is a staggering amount of disagreement

Zach Morris

Jan 18, 2:09pm

I might listen to nurses who are around her a lot.

Archaea

Jan 18, 5:35pm

Is it possible that part of her already knows? That she wants to avoid any

BYUtka

Jan 18, 1:48pm

Yes, I believe she knows but is not ready to talk about it. I also believe she

Tare

Jan 18, 2:24pm

Your love is really all you can give.

Archaea

Jan 18, 5:37pm

I would think she probably already knows. Sounds like a hard thing to go through

BNcoug

Jan 18, 1:48pm

Do as you are doing. I wouldn't push it. She will get there when she is ready.

Hobo

Jan 18, 1:50pm

Does the hospital recommend any kind of therapist or hospice worker who could

Gustav

Jan 18, 1:51pm

Yes, even though she is 22 she is still classified as pediatric so we have been

Tare

Jan 18, 2:08pm

A child life specialist should be able to help.

05COUG

Jan 18, 2:46pm

Godspeed

the rural juror

Jan 18, 1:52pm

I have nothing to offer but my heart aches for you

Bar7h

Jan 18, 1:53pm

a CB post that brought tears to my eyes. She sounds wonderful, and I'm touched

4mack

Jan 18, 1:57pm

goodness, I can't even imagine. You have a really amazing daughter. God bless you guys

Bob Vance

Jan 18, 1:59pm

If there were ever a time that I could provide the right advice and words of comfort it would be now, but I feel

Zach Morris

Jan 18, 2:01pm

My special needs sister died of cancer last year at age 50. She too refused to

septicpumper

Jan 18, 4:30pm

I think she knows or has an idea and (probably rightfully so) can't face it

fattycoug

Jan 18, 2:05pm

I talk with people about death all the time. A lot of people die in my area of

Jelly Man

Jan 18, 2:06pm

Thank you.

Tare

Jan 18, 2:12pm

She knows. But she is a human being with a natural defense mechanism and an

TheLoanArranger

Jan 18, 2:20pm

I’m crushed reading this and the OP. I agree 100%. People know when death is

cougfanz

Jan 18, 2:26pm

Thank you for sharing

Tare

Jan 18, 2:28pm

I will talk about Clara any opportunity I get. Happy to share/answer any

TheLoanArranger

Jan 18, 2:30pm

I just might take you up on that. Thanks again.

Tare

Jan 18, 2:32pm

Well said.

kccougar

Jan 18, 2:29pm

I'm so sorry, thats a hard thing to have to be a part of.

Grock

Jan 18, 2:29pm

I pray you will be inspired to know how to discuss this with your daughter

Rivers Cuomo

Jan 18, 3:08pm

RE: His father said it was as natural as being born. It was like walking through a door from one room into another room.

greatbam

Jan 18, 3:23pm

Best wishes to you and your family.

VenomFarmer

Jan 18, 4:14pm

I am sorry for the many hardships you and your family have had to endure. The

84 natlchamps

Jan 18, 6:10pm

My hearts breaking for you and your family.

Ned Schneebly

Jan 18, 7:05pm

Death is one of the greatest blessings God has given us.

Jimmeresque

Jan 18, 7:22pm

My brother passed away at 22

runningfoo

Jan 18, 8:27pm

In other words, listen to your loved one.

Archaea

Jan 18, 8:38pm

Great post.

dilbert

Jan 18, 8:57pm

Dads should never have to lose their daughters. This breaks my heart. I'm sorry

homegrown

Jan 18, 10:37pm

In my experience with death it seemed so natural. It almost seemed hard to come

BlueTemplar

Jan 18, 11:51pm

I got choked up just reading this. I can’t even imagine and just sorry you all

Tuskaloosa Cougar

Jan 19, 4:34am

For the piece of mind of you and your wife, I would make certain that your

canofpicante

Jan 19, 9:09am

I read the initial line of this and my mind went somewhere else. I am so

EDthoracotomy

Jan 19, 9:44am

Sorry I have no experience in this area. I am sorry. You seem to be handling this well

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