Things change after marriage. Your expectations before marriage are based on...

Jun 30, 2024
5:46:45pm

WJCougar Truly Addicted User

.....what you fell or hope will happen.....but to say "my wife agreed to cook dinner every night" then expect that to occur the rest of your life is unreasonable.

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POLL: How many of you husbands married to a full time wife and mother, expect a home cooked meal on the table 7 days a week?

TherealHCBW

Jun 30, 1:56pm

Name checks out

OU Cougar

Jun 30, 1:59pm

🙋‍♂️

cambo

Jun 30, 1:59pm

I have never expected it but my wife does it anyway. She runs four boys around for their demanding sports schedule and

Zach Morris

Jun 30, 1:59pm

I don’t imagine there are a whole bunch of these women in the US these days

Jericho

Jun 30, 2:02pm

My wife converted after we got married. She grew up in a culture that wasn’t conducive to being a traditional

Zach Morris

Jun 30, 2:07pm

My mom worked as well and raised a large family

Jericho

Jun 30, 2:25pm

What's a full-time wife?

GfB

Jun 30, 2:03pm

Some might want to sign up to be part time. Can you be a part time husband too?

Soupie

Jun 30, 2:05pm

I have no idea. What does it mean?

GfB

Jun 30, 2:08pm

The deed is once a month or less

jacare

Jun 30, 2:22pm

Amazingness.

brazilcoug

Jun 30, 2:27pm

What is the wife’s day job?

shimmy

Jun 30, 2:06pm

I never expect it. Her job is way harder than mine.

Dangerous

Jun 30, 2:06pm

I'm interested to enter your field. What is it?

Plato

Jun 30, 2:35pm

We trade off on who is in charge for dinner.

WJCougar

Jun 30, 2:08pm

My wife stays home to raise children. Housekeeping is an ancillary duty.

stenso

Jun 30, 2:09pm

Do you mean a full-time stay-at-home mom? How old are the kids, and how many are

Japan Coug

Jun 30, 2:18pm

No man should ever expect a woman to simply cook for him.

myfriendryan

Jun 30, 2:20pm

Wouldn't it depend on the discussions the couple had together before getting married? No such blanket statement exists.

Division Bell

Jun 30, 2:25pm

Certainly. But I’m simply responding to his question about “expecting” it.

myfriendryan

Jun 30, 2:41pm

I guess I can't imagine getting married without having prior discussions on roles, goals and what each other can expect

Division Bell

Jun 30, 3:07pm

Things change after marriage. Your expectations before marriage are based on...

WJCougar

Jun 30, 5:46pm

Of course the relationship is living and always changing. It's why society emphasizes communication.

Division Bell

Jun 30, 5:52pm

My wife rarely cooks. Most nights it’s buy from somewhere. I’m not

Don Carlton

Jun 30, 2:20pm

I think I eat enough food before dinner

Chicago Cougar

Jun 30, 2:23pm

We’re a team. I don’t care if she works full time, a stay at home mom,

Fatalplacebo

Jun 30, 2:27pm

How about, "I never expect it, but always appreciate it"?

PGVikingDad

Jun 30, 2:30pm

RE: POLL: How many of you husbands married to a full time wife and mother,

TherealHCBW

Jun 30, 2:47pm

I'm an old man. My mom (gone for decades), grew up on a farm (Great Depression). Everyone worked hard to not starve.

Division Bell

Jun 30, 3:51pm

RE: I'm an old man. My mom (gone for decades), grew up on a farm (Great

TherealHCBW

Jun 30, 5:11pm

I’m not going to agree with DB, that washing machines and dishwashers were the worst thing for mothers.

SJS

Jun 30, 5:20pm

Well, it is DB.

Fatalplacebo

Jun 30, 5:40pm

True. I just think it’s odd that TherealHCBW is agreeing with a dude who wishes she had to work harder.

SJS

Jun 30, 5:44pm

I'm in no position to tell anyone how to live their lives. But I can share what I might do in that situation.

Division Bell

Jun 30, 5:49pm

Stay at home mom is honestly a tough job! My wife is doing her best and

Cougphysio

Jun 30, 8:07pm

My wife & I agree that eating out is often the best option

Odysseus

Jun 30, 6:16pm

Whoever gets home from work first usually cooks. Seems we both do a good amount

LakeshowCougs

Jun 30, 3:01pm

At least 6 days a week, my HCBW cooks her dinner and I cook mine and they are

Methusaleh22

Jun 30, 3:02pm

We each make our own meals, consistent with our diet restrictions. We often trade a portion of our meals with each other

Division Bell

Jun 30, 4:03pm

Your MiL cooks Sunday dinner?

Q-grr

Jun 30, 4:30pm

We plan the meals together and each expect the other to help and contribute.

BYUtka

Jun 30, 3:32pm

RE: We plan the meals together and each expect the other to help and contribute.

TherealHCBW

Jun 30, 5:12pm

I once asked my wife what was for dinner in our first year of marriage and she

Bin01015

Jun 30, 10:51pm

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