I hesitate to post this because of sensitivity and vulnerability but I am desperate to know what to do.

We have 2.5 year old son. Given that I am older and based on my familial history I figured I would live to see him graduate from college and maybe even get married. Six months ago I was told I would be lucky to see him start kindergarten.

Understandably HCBW is worried about the future and wants to be able to earn money for herself. She is Vietnamese with no formal education, her self taught English is good enough to converse with me. She is very smart and she can do math and currency conversions almost faster than me and she can memorize credit card numbers in just a few minutes and then repeat it both forward and backward. Generally she has more common sense than most people. But that doesn't all translate to job sense and skills.

A few weeks ago she decided she to try creating content for YouTube and Facebook and posted some funny videos of our son. Within a week she had 4,000 followers on Facebook. One of her new Facebook friends told her of a job opportunity where she would complete tasks to earn money. In order to get tasks assigned she had to create an account and fund it with $3,000. I told her that this did not sound legitimate and that they might send her a little bit of money, but they would keep asking for her to send more. She begged and begged to do it and I finally relented with condition that we set up new bank account. I tried to set up online account in her name but was denied due to Patriot Act so I set up account in my name which instantaneously worked and tried to add her to the account but was denied. It was taking a long time so without letting me know she borrowed $3,000 from the only physical friend she has in the United States and had the friend send money to fund her "job account". She was then assigned 100 tasks which she completed and was paid $140. She was told that if she funded her job account with $13,000 she would get tasks to get paid $1,341. I very sternly told her this is exactly what I warned her about. Her Facebook friend volunteered to put $5,000 in her job account if she would come up with the rest. She then sent a Xoom payment of $3,000 (the max allowed). I changed the Xoom password so she couldn't send more. Last night I got email message from the bank saying they had received our request to wire $5,100. I was very upset and yelled at her and told her I was absolutely certain this was a scam. Fortunately it was after hours so I was able to cancel the wire.

Now HCBW is mad at me because I don't trust her and I am denying her the opportunity to have a job a make money. They are saying her account will be canceled if she doesn't send the $5,000.

I have tried to explain to her all of the reasons I know this is a scam but she will not listen. She says if I cannot trust her about this she will never forgive me and if she is wrong she will never ask me for anything again.

So what is another $5,000? We have already lost $6,000 unless I am wrong. Well in our unfortunate circumstances $5,000 is A LOT OF MONEY.

So what should I do? Send the $5,000 and maybe save our relationship?

I feel so pathetic to post and I am sorry for wasting your time.