In the threat assessment world this is called intensity of effort.

Mar 28, 2025
4:30:52pm

sidsie716 All-American

There is an ascending scale, and this guy is moving up it. I consult on a fair number of cases that start with something like this. Be cautious, do not hesitate to at least alert law enforcement. Trust and listen to your gut as a parent.

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Situation with my daughter - what would you do?

BYUfan92

Mar 28, 1:57pm

Super weird, but no, you don't call him. That would be even weirder.

supertux

Mar 28, 1:59pm

hmm not sure weird would describe calling back

Deleted

Mar 28, 2:01pm

First thing I would do is have her talk to HR. Sounds like the supe needs a

Garn

Mar 28, 2:00pm

No, its part time, rotating hours, the store is open 7 days week from 8 to 8

BYUfan92

Mar 28, 2:06pm

HR needs to be alerted. The shift manager needs additional training.

BYUtka

Mar 28, 2:10pm

People can thumbs down me or eye roll me all they want,

gangbusters

Mar 28, 2:04pm

I would 100% call as well

cougfanz

Mar 28, 2:05pm

Predators typically avoid confrontation by nature. Let him know you know

Hiccupless

Mar 28, 2:06pm

Call his wife, ask her why he'd be stalking your daughter. Let her know that the police will be looking into it.

Rules For Thee

Mar 28, 2:08pm

While I agree, I wouldn't call. I'd text him.

Chester Copperpot

Mar 28, 2:08pm

Yeah, maybe. idk if a burner type phone would be better, too.

gangbusters

Mar 28, 2:09pm

Text, sure. Use your Google Voice number instead of phone. Calling him is way

Superkid

Mar 28, 2:10pm

He's creepy, but he did leave her alone. He didn't show up or anything, did he?

Superkid

Mar 28, 2:10pm

Calling lets him know that if anything happens to her he will be a suspect. Big

marinact

Mar 28, 2:18pm

Probably stalked her after work. Guy is a creepy and needs to know he's being

KayakCoug

Mar 28, 2:19pm

Sorry for biting your head off. Not called for.

gangbusters

Mar 28, 2:32pm

We wouldn't know. He could have showed up but not confronted her. Maybe he

fattycoug

Mar 29, 11:51am

Maybe make a manager call him and have them tell him to stop calling/harassing employees.

Penske Material

Mar 28, 2:10pm

That works, too, as long as someone does something to address him directly.

gangbusters

Mar 28, 2:22pm

I’d call him for sure. A guy like that will disappear as soon as he’s lost his

OKchief

Mar 28, 2:12pm

call his wife

Ssebo

Mar 29, 10:09pm

You're not entirely wrong.

Jeffacka

Mar 28, 2:17pm

Just thinking while I type - maybe this isn't a great idea.

Eddie

Mar 28, 2:26pm

Find a new job. Educate her on situational awareness and self defense.

Penske Material

Mar 28, 2:09pm

Shift manager needs some training. "I'm not sure, let me check. Who is calling?"

BYUtka

Mar 28, 2:09pm

“Why do you want to know if she’s wearing leather pants Mr. Wittingham?”

ChiCityCoug

Mar 28, 3:08pm

I am not sure, but what about having your daughter call him back from the store?

crack

Mar 28, 2:12pm

Does she even want to work there anymore?

Belboz

Mar 28, 2:16pm

I had a couple of times my high school daughter was scared working all alone at a local Subway

2FarGone

Mar 28, 2:16pm

Solid dad. Nice work. In today's world, no effort can be too little

BlackBart

Mar 28, 2:18pm

1) I would report it to the police. 2) I would have the store manager call and

Benfica1

Mar 28, 2:28pm

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puntersarepeople

Mar 28, 2:17pm

Your daughter needs to find a new job with serious people that care about her

DodgerCoug

Mar 28, 2:20pm

Someone should call him. As a father, I would heavily consider it and

Thrill

Mar 28, 2:22pm

Could it perhaps have been the guys son? My boys sounded like grown men when they were 13/14 yo. Something to consider

WDaddy

Mar 28, 2:22pm

Dont think so - the # on caller id is the 40 year olds # not a kid. So unless a`

BYUfan92

Mar 28, 2:29pm

Any chance it could be a kid's father where the kid is a friend of your daughter

crack

Mar 28, 2:31pm

Most people have multiple phones in their name on the account and they don't

Superkid

Mar 28, 2:37pm

My parents’ name is on my phone and I’m a college student

BaseCoug

Mar 28, 5:24pm

At a minimum, I would have my daughter carry pepper spray wherever she goes.

crack

Mar 28, 2:26pm

Find out where he works and show up there 🙂

zonacougar

Mar 28, 2:29pm

My daughter has a stalker at work.. an older guy who constantly comes in and asks for her.

TheLost

Mar 28, 2:34pm

After my daughter had a "Heretic" experience happen to her...

VenomFarmer

Mar 28, 2:35pm

Give me his number and I’ll call him. I’ll try to put the fear of God in him if

Q-grr

Mar 28, 2:37pm

Don't overreact. But DO act. Call the dude, tell him you're her father and you

Socrates Johnson

Mar 28, 2:39pm

Different less creepy opinion here. My wife shops at a few stores that the associates work on commission. She'll

BIG XII Coug

Mar 28, 2:40pm

I wouldn't call. Not yet, anyway.

Homercles

Mar 28, 2:42pm

CORRECT ANSWER:

Crowd Factor

Mar 28, 2:46pm

I would be more aggressive

kapcreations

Mar 28, 2:47pm

I have always appreciated the wisdom of Cher Horowitz’s dad in Clueless…

Iman23

Mar 28, 2:55pm

I wouldn't call him. I might make a police report. They probably won't do much

Still Blue

Mar 28, 3:04pm

Easy. I’d call cops. And get my daughter pepper spray and a knife. And/or CCL

Dr MoBYU

Mar 28, 3:15pm

Call Liam Neeson

Cougar Junkie

Mar 28, 4:23pm

In the threat assessment world this is called intensity of effort.

sidsie716

Mar 28, 4:30pm

What’s the age for CC in AZ? This is what 2A was made for, self defense!!!

CObluezone

Mar 29, 6:04am

I wouldn't do anything. You have no idea if it was him or someone else on his

wildlandfireguy

Mar 29, 6:10am

Make sure she knows how to fight.

EDthoracotomy

Mar 29, 8:31am

I actually don’t blame the shift manager at all. Your daughter works in a public

Odysseus

Mar 29, 10:24pm

Take very little common sense to realize an old guy asking for a young girl is

EDthoracotomy

Mar 30, 8:14am

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