As a recently turned 40 year old, in a singles match ward, I’ve had many

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Oct 24, 2024
3:28:02pm

AmericanScouser Walk-on

As a recently turned 40 year old, in a singles match ward, I’ve had many

conversations with guys that wish they would’ve made a move for a girl 10-20 years ago instead of seeing their options now. Not to be rude. But you’ll have many more options at this point in your dating life if she says no so there’s something great to gain but many more opportunities if not. Just don’t age into a mid-singles ward and you’ll still have hope. Haha

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AmericanScouser

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Need some dating advice

lightthebeam2

2:29pm

RE: Need some dating advice

2:35pm

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Jack Teacher

2:57pm

Define "got weird afterwards"

2:36pm

Ask her out again. If you don't, you will always wonder "what if". The worst

Jdoc

2:36pm

Yes. Possible girlfriend is much more valuable than a non-romantic female friend

RoboKayne

2:52pm

You’ve come to the right place for advice…

2:37pm

Ask her out. If it gets weird again, then

2:37pm

Post a picture and CB will let you know if she worth pursuing.

germ1

2:38pm

Do you have any interest in someday marrying this girl?

Courtimedes

2:38pm

What's the worst that could happen?

OrsoNero

2:38pm

I agree he maybe late asking her out and he now on her friend list.

germ1

2:40pm

Funny you should mention it, there is a great song about this.

Shawarma

2:47pm

Thomas Mac is hilarious.

sethj250

3:05pm

YOLO! Just ask her out. If it's going to work out, it will. Be confident, but

BYUtka

2:40pm

Women will make it obvious if they’re interested- if she says no, move on

SwanSong

2:40pm

and I'd argue spending hours talking with each other and not just studying is

LeonMarek

2:41pm

The 45- to 70-year-old men here who haven’t dated this century are sure to have

Nikomedes

2:41pm

RE: The 45- to 70-year-old men here who haven’t dated this century are

LeonMarek

2:43pm

Dating in this century sucks. Go back to the tried and true methods.

the_archduke

2:44pm

Okay, boomer.

2:45pm

Many year of thinking “what if”, relationships haven’t change much.

germ1

3:56pm

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Bert609

4:27pm

That's like saying the Constitution doesn't work in modern times. Yes it does,

4:37pm

I resemble that comment

Big Daddy D

7:21pm

Also, I'm aware of at least two women on CougarBoard.

RoboKayne

7:27pm

Imagine the reverse post by the girl

2:43pm

Ask her asap. If she says no or is weird, stop wasting time being her friend.

KayakCoug

2:43pm

Your future wife endorses this advice. Especially if it’s this girl.

Shawarma

2:51pm

If she is actively trying to hang out with you and talking with you for hours,

Russell Feathers

2:44pm

Or, to play devil’s advocate, she enjoys the safety of the friend zone. Either

Big Daddy D

2:54pm

Yup, if she "likes the safety of the friend-zone" she needs to be "friend dumped" to know that zone isn't appropriate in

Bert609

4:30pm

or she thinks you're gay

icecougar

6:45pm

Bro once you do get married you aren't having a relationship with this girl. So if you maybe want that to be her

P-Boy Squad

2:45pm

Powerful truth I learned almost too late and everyone should know

HRCougar

2:49pm

Amen!

RoboKayne

2:59pm

...unless you play for the other team. Then it's ok

icecougar

6:38pm

Well actually......

gopman

7:17pm

Just be honest and express how you feel let that play out. She could just reject

JAGA97

2:48pm

RE: Need some dating advice

SaturdaySpecialDay

2:50pm

As an old man, Here is my advice. Ask her out. If she says let’s just be friends

DiamondDog

2:52pm

Ya ask her out. Either it’s meant to be or it’s not. Don’t waste time if its not

PKCoug

2:53pm

NCMO

m0resn0w

2:54pm

You've got nothing to lose here, except a friend who will not be your eternal

Incentivize

2:55pm

If you want or need a friend go find some guys to hang out with that

cougfanz

2:56pm

you can do a couple different things. Assume the sale (aka presumptive close)

icecougar

2:56pm

I like this. I think people get ahead of themselves with the DTRing and talking

RoboKayne

3:02pm

Ask her if she wants to get some pizza and make out. If she says no,

CocaColaRecovery

2:58pm

Buddy...

Jack Teacher

2:58pm

You won’t somehow friend her into a relationship if that’s what you are asking

canuckchuck

2:59pm

I'm not sure what "hanging out" means but you can just improve the hanging out

BYU Fan

3:04pm

To me it sounds like you are already going out if you are "hanging out" and

Murray

3:07pm

YOLO. Many of us with the benefit of hindsight can share that we've probably

Thrill

3:07pm

Don’t just ask her out yet build attraction first

jes2332

3:08pm

I am curious about this. Can others confirm this works? Is this a modern thing?

RoboKayne

7:34pm

Show her your post, then ask for her thoughts and advice on it.

3:12pm

Your boardname isn't babycarrot, so at least you have that going for you

RH84025

3:12pm

lets hope his isnt a euphemism... go slow lightthebeam

CrashMcLarson

3:33pm

but it's not SausageKing either so...

icecougar

6:41pm

You should be dating non-exclusively. You should have a roster

gopman

3:14pm

I love the bravado but how do you know he's the prize and not her?

qwerew

5:22pm

That's up to him.

gopman

5:49pm

This is also an attitude you can take. It is up to you if you want

Courtimedes

5:55pm

Stop wasting money on somebody else's wife.

Dark Forest Green

3:15pm

Poop or get off the pot. She obviously likes you.

Longseason

3:19pm

That's what my dad told me to encourage me to propose

BYU Fan

3:33pm

“There is a tide in the affairs of men which, taken at the flood, leads on . . .

d-coug

3:25pm

go for it.

qwerew

5:19pm

oops, meant for OP

qwerew

5:20pm

As a recently turned 40 year old, in a singles match ward, I’ve had many

AmericanScouser

3:28pm

See if she needs a ticket to a football game

3:28pm

Force her hand by asking another girl out.

bricej13

3:35pm

I respectfully disagree. Don't play the game- just ask her.

Courtimedes

6:55pm

You need to Define The Relationship(DTR). Ask her if she wants to date or just be good friends.

John Doe

3:36pm

Your status as homework buddy seems solid. And by that I mean, it doesn't seem like you are risking anything

mokelembembe

4:10pm

Seems obvious. How about "So what do you think? Should we go out again?"

jsaskew

4:17pm

Ask her out again. Could be "the one."

oryguncoug

4:20pm

Start by putting your hand on the small of her back

MHallDidNothingWr0ng

5:56pm

Don’t ask her out. Just ask her what she is looking for? Say, “You hit me up

SnickSnack

7:28pm

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