You should be dating non-exclusively. You should have a roster

Oct 24, 2024
3:14:59pm

gopman All-American

of women you're seeing. "When you demonstrate to her that you have options you become her only option".

Be assertive.

Game, looks, money & status are important as well. Remember, you're the prize. Not her.

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Author

Time

Need some dating advice

lightthebeam2

2:29pm

RE: Need some dating advice

Cosmo Kramer

2:35pm

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Jack Teacher

2:57pm

Define "got weird afterwards"

Cosmo Kramer

2:36pm

Ask her out again. If you don't, you will always wonder "what if". The worst

Jdoc

2:36pm

Yes. Possible girlfriend is much more valuable than a non-romantic female friend

RoboKayne

2:52pm

You’ve come to the right place for advice…

NanoFab Coug

2:37pm

Ask her out. If it gets weird again, then

RealSimsShadY

2:37pm

Post a picture and CB will let you know if she worth pursuing.

germ1

2:38pm

Do you have any interest in someday marrying this girl?

Courtimedes

2:38pm

What's the worst that could happen?

OrsoNero

2:38pm

I agree he maybe late asking her out and he now on her friend list.

germ1

2:40pm

Funny you should mention it, there is a great song about this.

Shawarma

2:47pm

Thomas Mac is hilarious.

sethj250

3:05pm

YOLO! Just ask her out. If it's going to work out, it will. Be confident, but

BYUtka

2:40pm

Women will make it obvious if they’re interested- if she says no, move on

SwanSong

2:40pm

and I'd argue spending hours talking with each other and not just studying is

LeonMarek

2:41pm

The 45- to 70-year-old men here who haven’t dated this century are sure to have

Nikomedes

2:41pm

RE: The 45- to 70-year-old men here who haven’t dated this century are

LeonMarek

2:43pm

Dating in this century sucks. Go back to the tried and true methods.

the_archduke

2:44pm

Okay, boomer.

Cosmo Kramer

2:45pm

Many year of thinking “what if”, relationships haven’t change much.

germ1

3:56pm

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Bert609

4:27pm

That's like saying the Constitution doesn't work in modern times. Yes it does,

Cougar Junkie

4:37pm

Imagine the reverse post by the girl

scrambled egg

2:43pm

Ask her asap. If she says no or is weird, stop wasting time being her friend.

KayakCoug

2:43pm

Your future wife endorses this advice. Especially if it’s this girl.

Shawarma

2:51pm

If she is actively trying to hang out with you and talking with you for hours,

Russell Feathers

2:44pm

Or, to play devil’s advocate, she enjoys the safety of the friend zone. Either

Big Daddy D

2:54pm

Yup, if she "likes the safety of the friend-zone" she needs to be "friend dumped" to know that zone isn't appropriate in

Bert609

4:30pm

Bro once you do get married you aren't having a relationship with this girl. So if you maybe want that to be her

P-Boy Squad

2:45pm

Powerful truth I learned almost too late and everyone should know

HRCougar

2:49pm

Amen!

RoboKayne

2:59pm

Just be honest and express how you feel let that play out. She could just reject

JAGA97

2:48pm

RE: Need some dating advice

SaturdaySpecialDay

2:50pm

As an old man, Here is my advice. Ask her out. If she says let’s just be friends

DiamondDog

2:52pm

Ya ask her out. Either it’s meant to be or it’s not. Don’t waste time if its not

PKCoug

2:53pm

NCMO

m0resn0w

2:54pm

You've got nothing to lose here, except a friend who will not be your eternal

Incentivize

2:55pm

If you want or need a friend go find some guys to hang out with that

cougfanz

2:56pm

you can do a couple different things. Assume the sale (aka presumptive close)

icecougar

2:56pm

I like this. I think people get ahead of themselves with the DTRing and talking

RoboKayne

3:02pm

Ask her if she wants to get some pizza and make out. If she says no,

CocaColaRecovery

2:58pm

Buddy...

Jack Teacher

2:58pm

You won’t somehow friend her into a relationship if that’s what you are asking

canuckchuck

2:59pm

I'm not sure what "hanging out" means but you can just improve the hanging out

BYU Fan

3:04pm

To me it sounds like you are already going out if you are "hanging out" and

Murray

3:07pm

YOLO. Many of us with the benefit of hindsight can share that we've probably

Thrill

3:07pm

Don’t just ask her out yet build attraction first

jes2332

3:08pm

Show her your post, then ask for her thoughts and advice on it.

Buster Scruggs

3:12pm

Your boardname isn't babycarrot, so at least you have that going for you

RH84025

3:12pm

lets hope his isnt a euphemism... go slow lightthebeam

CrashMcLarson

3:33pm

You should be dating non-exclusively. You should have a roster

gopman

3:14pm

I love the bravado but how do you know he's the prize and not her?

qwerew

5:22pm

Stop wasting money on somebody else's wife.

Dark Forest Green

3:15pm

Poop or get off the pot. She obviously likes you.

Longseason

3:19pm

That's what my dad told me to encourage me to propose

BYU Fan

3:33pm

“There is a tide in the affairs of men which, taken at the flood, leads on . . .

d-coug

3:25pm

go for it.

qwerew

5:19pm

oops, meant for OP

qwerew

5:20pm

As a recently turned 40 year old, in a singles match ward, I’ve had many

AmericanScouser

3:28pm

See if she needs a ticket to a football game

FuriousMonkey

3:28pm

Force her hand by asking another girl out.

bricej13

3:35pm

You need to Define The Relationship(DTR). Ask her if she wants to date or just be good friends.

John Doe

3:36pm

Your status as homework buddy seems solid. And by that I mean, it doesn't seem like you are risking anything

mokelembembe

4:10pm

Seems obvious. How about "So what do you think? Should we go out again?"

jsaskew

4:17pm

Ask her out again. Could be "the one."

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