Not a book to help you be more amenable as you argue but it can help someone who comes off as abrasive or toxic improve their relationship with others. It’s Leadership and Self Deception by the Arbinger Institute.

Some of the topics it touches on include:

1. Recognize your biases and blind spots
Acknowledge and confront biases and blind spots that contribute to self-deception.

2. Cultivate empathy and understanding
Develop empathy by actively listening to others, considering their perspective.

3. Practice continuous self-awareness
Cultivate a habit of ongoing self-awareness by regularly examining your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

4. Seek diverse perspectives and feedback

There are others that deal more with leadership and teams. Anyway, I think someone who is open minded and willing to examine how they interact with others can get a lot out of the book.

Unfortunately, folks that need the advice in the book the most tend to miss how the text relates to them.