Yeah this is an important detail. Sounds like daughter is stressed about not

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Nov 1, 2024
11:55:03pm

BaseCoug Intervention Needed

Having a big amount in the bank account right at this moment, while the SIL is taking the long view.

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crowd sourcing my response to my daughter:

DansmithUVU

Nov 1, 9:32pm

Oh don't worry they just put it on the credit card.

supertux

Nov 1, 9:37pm

I wouldn't bring it up at all. At least I hope I wouldn't. It is the boy who

paulb

Nov 1, 9:38pm

Don't fret. It's obvious they won some money gambling online between the Costco

Nikomedes

Nov 1, 9:39pm

That make sense

TNT

Nov 1, 10:58pm

You are right, and I don't know how to properly bring it up.

Courtimedes

Nov 1, 9:39pm

Ha I would have been like "hard pass" if my in-laws wanted to sit down and try to talk to us about money. Don't bring it

supertux

Nov 1, 9:41pm

I can see that. I also wouldn't have been comfortable taking grocery money

Courtimedes

Nov 1, 9:43pm

I wouldn't either. The way I read it, it was the daughter who did that with the mom. I hope the husband facepalmed when

supertux

Nov 1, 9:44pm

Yep, I wouldn't take a cent from my in-laws, even if they had some to share. That way I can say no when they want us to

jaromp

Nov 1, 9:47pm

That’s a tough one

BYU Fan

Nov 1, 9:40pm

There you go. Not really a tough one.

supertux

Nov 1, 9:41pm

My message:

J. Walter Weatherman

Nov 1, 9:47pm

I absolutely would not talk to them at this point

bythenumbers

Nov 1, 11:19pm

Just tell her you're concerned. There are a couple of data points about their finances that has you troubled. Explain

HarlemCoug

Nov 1, 9:45pm

I don't think they asked for money, I think she did unbeknownst to him.

paulb

Nov 1, 9:59pm

Yeah this is an important detail. Sounds like daughter is stressed about not

BaseCoug

Nov 1, 11:55pm

Hmm. I've seen this somewhere before...

O Gaucho

Nov 1, 9:46pm

Wrap the $300 Costco Grocery receipt & put it under the tree for them for

jordbyu

Nov 1, 9:50pm

I would tell them how awesome I think that is and be positive. Don’t say a word

Don Carlton

Nov 1, 9:51pm

Yeah, my advice is leave it alone.

TheHop

Nov 1, 9:57pm

Were the groceries a gift or a loan? Loans have

snowbird

Nov 1, 9:59pm

Just remember that for next time the groceries come up. Then have a convo

homegrown

Nov 1, 10:03pm

Cut them off

LaVellIfIKnow

Nov 1, 10:08pm

I read every reply and I'm grateful for each of you.

DansmithUVU

Nov 1, 10:08pm

You are 30 minutes away. Next time they want groceries tell them they are

kcca

Nov 1, 10:08pm

Lesson learned. I wouldn't say anything this time but if/when she asks again you can encourage her to budget her money

kccougar

Nov 1, 10:16pm

Next time they 'need' grocery money tell your SIL to go doordash for a few hours

MrTootles

Nov 1, 10:22pm

She already knows what you think.

toadie

Nov 1, 10:25pm

Forget the money. Tell her it’s weird to go to Disneyland as just adults

maxpowers

Nov 1, 10:30pm

If the request ever comes up again, go to The church resources and print off a

lurKing5000

Nov 1, 10:48pm

I’d call my kid on it and tell them it’s total BS.

Beggar

Nov 1, 10:50pm

Youngins today have no sense

Archaea

Nov 1, 10:57pm

Wowsers. Living the dream

TNT

Nov 1, 10:58pm

King Solomon says

Ten_Hour_Drives

Nov 1, 11:00pm

The conversation shouldn’t be with them

ElFeo

Nov 1, 11:11pm

Yeah but that Happy Wife Happy Life saying

TNT

Nov 1, 11:17pm

Also are we sure the shopping trip was not also just a mother-daughter bonding

BaseCoug

Nov 1, 11:56pm

I wouldn't say anything until it happens again. Right now it would just offend.

OKchief

Nov 1, 11:57pm

lol how did they pay for the Disney trip? Their student loans.

Ten_Hour_Drives

12:17am

Are you trying to dunk on me by saying an $800 Disney trip is the same as buying

OKchief

12:34am

Your kid may be bright, but they’re terrible with money and manipulative. Your

Scott_Tenorman

12:06am

Invite them to dinner. Have a fake For Sale sign on your front lawn. When your

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