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Nov 1, 2024
10:08:49pm

kcca All-American

You are 30 minutes away. Next time they want groceries tell them they are

welcome to eat at your place anytime they want. If they insist on groceries, go to costco and buy a large container of oatmeal, large bag of rice, maybe some beans, and gift those to them. It will be way cheaper for you, and they won’t starve. Win-win.

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kcca

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Last login: Nov 2, 2024
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Time

crowd sourcing my response to my daughter:

DansmithUVU

Nov 1, 9:32pm

Oh don't worry they just put it on the credit card.

supertux

Nov 1, 9:37pm

I wouldn't bring it up at all. At least I hope I wouldn't. It is the boy who

paulb

Nov 1, 9:38pm

Don't fret. It's obvious they won some money gambling online between the Costco

Nikomedes

Nov 1, 9:39pm

That make sense

TNT

Nov 1, 10:58pm

You are right, and I don't know how to properly bring it up.

Courtimedes

Nov 1, 9:39pm

Ha I would have been like "hard pass" if my in-laws wanted to sit down and try to talk to us about money. Don't bring it

supertux

Nov 1, 9:41pm

I can see that. I also wouldn't have been comfortable taking grocery money

Courtimedes

Nov 1, 9:43pm

I wouldn't either. The way I read it, it was the daughter who did that with the mom. I hope the husband facepalmed when

supertux

Nov 1, 9:44pm

Yep, I wouldn't take a cent from my in-laws, even if they had some to share. That way I can say no when they want us to

jaromp

Nov 1, 9:47pm

That’s a tough one

BYU Fan

Nov 1, 9:40pm

There you go. Not really a tough one.

supertux

Nov 1, 9:41pm

My message:

J. Walter Weatherman

Nov 1, 9:47pm

I absolutely would not talk to them at this point

bythenumbers

Nov 1, 11:19pm

Just tell her you're concerned. There are a couple of data points about their finances that has you troubled. Explain

HarlemCoug

Nov 1, 9:45pm

I don't think they asked for money, I think she did unbeknownst to him.

paulb

Nov 1, 9:59pm

Yeah this is an important detail. Sounds like daughter is stressed about not

BaseCoug

Nov 1, 11:55pm

Hmm. I've seen this somewhere before...

O Gaucho

Nov 1, 9:46pm

Wrap the $300 Costco Grocery receipt & put it under the tree for them for

jordbyu

Nov 1, 9:50pm

I would tell them how awesome I think that is and be positive. Don’t say a word

Don Carlton

Nov 1, 9:51pm

Yeah, my advice is leave it alone.

TheHop

Nov 1, 9:57pm

Were the groceries a gift or a loan? Loans have

snowbird

Nov 1, 9:59pm

Just remember that for next time the groceries come up. Then have a convo

homegrown

Nov 1, 10:03pm

Cut them off

Nov 1, 10:08pm

I read every reply and I'm grateful for each of you.

DansmithUVU

Nov 1, 10:08pm

You are 30 minutes away. Next time they want groceries tell them they are

kcca

Nov 1, 10:08pm

Lesson learned. I wouldn't say anything this time but if/when she asks again you can encourage her to budget her money

kccougar

Nov 1, 10:16pm

Next time they 'need' grocery money tell your SIL to go doordash for a few hours

MrTootles

Nov 1, 10:22pm

She already knows what you think.

toadie

Nov 1, 10:25pm

Forget the money. Tell her it’s weird to go to Disneyland as just adults

maxpowers

Nov 1, 10:30pm

If the request ever comes up again, go to The church resources and print off a

lurKing5000

Nov 1, 10:48pm

I’d call my kid on it and tell them it’s total BS.

Beggar

Nov 1, 10:50pm

Youngins today have no sense

Archaea

Nov 1, 10:57pm

Wowsers. Living the dream

TNT

Nov 1, 10:58pm

King Solomon says

Ten_Hour_Drives

Nov 1, 11:00pm

The conversation shouldn’t be with them

ElFeo

Nov 1, 11:11pm

Yeah but that Happy Wife Happy Life saying

TNT

Nov 1, 11:17pm

Also are we sure the shopping trip was not also just a mother-daughter bonding

BaseCoug

Nov 1, 11:56pm

I wouldn't say anything until it happens again. Right now it would just offend.

OKchief

Nov 1, 11:57pm

lol how did they pay for the Disney trip? Their student loans.

Ten_Hour_Drives

12:17am

Are you trying to dunk on me by saying an $800 Disney trip is the same as buying

OKchief

12:34am

Your kid may be bright, but they’re terrible with money and manipulative. Your

12:06am

Invite them to dinner. Have a fake For Sale sign on your front lawn. When your

KayakCoug

12:22am

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