1. Just as how a repair shop will say “we will check your car for free!” And they never come back and say “you’re good, your car is fine.” They always find something wrong. Therapists will always find that you need therapy because that is how they make money. That can include digging up things that just needed to let lie. One good clue on if a therapist is good is how long they work with people. If someone says “my therapist is great, we’ve met twice a week for seven years now,”
I have to question if they are really helping.

2. Some of the terrible people in my life have found therapists who are “yes men.” They agree with the person all the time to create a monster. My wife’s “friend” was an ok person with some challenges. Now that she has a therapist, she uses it to justify every bad reaction. “That person’s a jerk. Before I would have pretended to be her friend and be nice but my therapist says I need to be true to myself, so now I can be rude to her.”

The business model with therapy is tough. They’re motivated to keep talking to you. So that means they have to keep you happy (which may not include tough love) and they aren’t motivated to fix you.