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Dec 24, 2024
10:09:03am

Ray Shoesmith Starter

I had one set that gave every grandkid a gift and one that didn’t. Shockingly

my siblings and I all survived and my parents never even had to say a word about it.

Fast forward a few decades and my own kids have a set of grandparents who give a simple gift to each family if they can afford to, and a grandmother on the other side who gets them each something. No one is entitled to anything.

Gratitude is a great principle to learn early.

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Ray Shoesmith

Previous username: Alan Garner
Bio page: Ray Shoesmith
Joined: Apr 23, 2022
Last login: Dec 24, 2024
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My parents decided no presents this year for kids or grandkids. They decided to

Magneto

8:54am

Idk sounds cool to me

Chocolate_Pretzel

8:56am

How old are the kids? They may not even notice or care.

Belboz

8:57am

Cut them off and never speak to them again.

TCuz

8:57am

Yeah! Leave the church and tell them this is why, too. That'll get em

9:37am

Tell them they wanted to give to kids in need and help your kids understand why

benny1982

8:57am

Yeah, it's sort of lame but it would also be lame to be resentful about it

fattycoug

9:07am

You need to chill.

immacougar

8:58am

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KYU

10:02am

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Longseason

8:58am

Why would you say anything? They're not going to announce what they did?

rcbyufan

8:59am

They did announce it to our family. They said no more presents for grandkids

Magneto

9:10am

Oh. Well I retract my outrage. That's perfectly fine behavior.

rcbyufan

9:12am

Your kids will have no problem understanding if they are physically taking them somewhere to give the donation. That's

mokelembembe

9:14am

Yup. Sounds cool to me. Maybe tell the kid his budget and let him pick the gift/gifts he’s giving. This would be a cool

mvtoro

9:21am

Then join them and help your kids see the better side of Christmas!!

AzCugrFan

9:45am

^^^The Christmas spirit gone wrong^^^

brazilcoug

9:00am

Sounds like a cool idea to me.

cheezedawg

9:00am

Your kids didn’t want chickens?

SausageKing

9:00am

You just tell them the truth, that one set of grandparents decided to give

4mack

9:01am

LOL. The grandparents should be explaining. Why are they not talking to their

rcbyufan

9:02am

There's not anything in the OP specifically stating that they aren't going to be

fattycoug

9:09am

He clarified. Sounds like they behaved fine.

rcbyufan

9:12am

If you live close to your parents, it would have been fun for them to take the

PCCoug

9:01am

silly take. why are they obligated to gift your kids?

AzCugrFan

9:01am

Because both of their parents did gifts to me and my siblings. Now they don’t

Magneto

9:12am

So people don’t have the right to evolve their thinking and change? They are

SnickSnack

9:32am

And they got off Scott free after cleaning up from their own parents!? How dare they not pay their fair share into the

mvtoro

9:34am

As reddit would say YATAH

fattycoug

1:50pm

Grandparents shouldn’t really be the ones spoiling the kids on Christmas anyway IMO.

Mike Honcho

9:02am

Grandparent gifts aren't really a thing in my family.

cruoti

9:03am

I'm confused, why would you resent your parents for this. Is this a reverse?

Meadowcoug

9:04am

It's absurd behavior by the grandparents. To be clear, not getting gifts for

rcbyufan

9:11am

Edit: His post above clarifies the behavior. They acted fine.

rcbyufan

9:13am

They sent out a big group message telling everyone their reasoning and if we’d

Magneto

9:16am

Sounds like a great idea. You should take your kids and join them.

cougarim

9:34am

RE: It's absurd behavior by the grandparents. To be clear, not getting gifts

UNLVcougar

1:47pm

Wow....classic millennial/ gen z response here.

carcoug

6:23pm

This can’t be real right? Someone getting mad at their parents for being

Pepe

9:35am

What are you going to tell them? That’s absurd. It’s not about getting gifts for Christmas. You’re raising spoiled brats

RdF3

9:06am

Tell them the truth, your kids have plenty and their grandparents wanted to help

Cosmodiar

9:07am

I thought the whole point of Christmas is giving and worshiping Jesus.

JohnnyC

9:09am

But what about getting cheap Chinese crap?

cheezedawg

9:12am

Only if you purchase it at Temu.

JohnnyC

9:51am

So you don't give your kids gifts right?

ochobeeguy

10:15am

Yes. I don’t give gifts to my kids.

JohnnyC

12:09pm

I do not understand your parents choice nor your reaction.

shimmy

9:14am

Tell them you were going to go visit them but instead you are going to go visit the giving machines now. JK. Don’t

TADOW

9:15am

One of our gifts to our kids is a pic of the options and we go the day after

Dataguy

9:15am

RE: My parents decided no presents this year for kids or grandkids. They decided

goidcougs

9:18am

Resenting your parents for this seems a bit harsh.

John Doe

9:18am

My parents have a ton of grandkids, much more than 14, so we taught our kids

Penske Material

9:19am

I don't think I ever got gifts from mine. As the youngest grandchild going to

9:53am

Potd to complete the collection, and for the sheer absurdity of the post.

StantonMac

9:21am

Hopefully you can provide the appropriate context and example for them to follow

couldge

9:26am

I hope you took your kids to make the donation!

Still Blue

9:26am

Not sure if this is really about Christmas giving

korihor

9:26am

P

mvtoro

9:36am

My in-laws did the same thing and my kids are totally fine.

Yukon

9:28am

our kids go to the giving machines and pick the gift for/from the grandparents.

niqmadu

9:35am

This. This is why I can’t quit CB.

Tortillero

9:36am

I can understand your concern if your kids

Herewego

9:39am

It only works if the Grandkids get to allot the money at the Giving Machine

9:39am

A few years ago our extended family took all the kids to a foreign country to spend a week at an orphanage. We

9:40am

I love reading about these types of things. Makes me want to do better.

qwerew

11:19am

Your parents are awesome.

Benfica1

9:41am

Your parents are giving your kids a far better gift than presents. This is great

runnincoug

9:45am

You just tell them exactly what they are doing. You should raise your kids to

9:46am

Hopefully your kids have a better understanding of Christmas than you do

SLC-Durham

9:48am

I teach my kids that Christmas is more than presents

9:52am

If you look at it, this way, you’re inheritance is not hemorrhaging quite as much. Nothing to resent there.😉

KYU

10:02am

I had one set that gave every grandkid a gift and one that didn’t. Shockingly

10:09am

I thought this was a joke at first. Nope. Here's what my parents have done –

Benfica1

10:24am

is this a "reverse" or what ever they call it? This can't be serious.

qwerew

11:17am

My parents did something similar but they gave us money and asked us to donate to a charity of our choosing

LaserCoug

11:29am

Is this a reverse?

Lefty24

12:06pm

You're seriously whining about that? Or is this a reverse I dont understand?

BYUfan92

1:27pm

I’d calmly sit them down and explain that your in-laws don’t care for the poor

DiamondMo

1:28pm

The amount of angst in this thread over giving to the needy in lieu of Christmas

UNLVcougar

1:53pm

I know I’m in the minority here but I think it’s weird.

abyunobody

3:34pm

Nice try. We know this is a throwaway account, OP.

3:57pm

If they had only given each grandkid a goat, it could have counted for both.

Cru Jones

4:42pm

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