other things, I specifically BM’d the OP and told him that applies to certain disease I’m familiar with, and I wasn’t sure if it was the same across the board.

Also, surrogate was the wrong term. I don’t know the correct one. But I was thinking along the lines of the wife going to a sperm bank, so the child is at least half theirs. I know that sounds crazy, but to me it would be better than nothing.