I saw the video. Since I posted it has become clear there is more here than I thought and it would get too personal and sensitive to probably give anymore updates here.

I'll just add this for everyone: It is not ok to go into someone's backyard during the night. You especially need to be careful if there are kids in the home and really sensitive about looking into windows in otherwise private spaces. Sometimes it may seem completely innocent to you, but just possibly reconsider it all if you're ever in this position.