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Dec 14, 2024
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This subthread isn’t strong evidence that you know how to lose gracefully.

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garyfan

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There is no doubt about it... Parents are ruining youth sports.

Dec 14, 3:03pm

A couple ideas.

dwhitebud

Dec 14, 3:07pm

The problem is with you and your kid. Don't blame other parents.

SJS

Dec 14, 3:08pm

Yeah I have a lot of problems with club and specialization but parents and

palangi

Dec 14, 3:19pm

When you say the problem is with me, what do you mean?

Dec 14, 3:44pm

So I mean this in the kindest way possible.

dwhitebud

Dec 14, 4:07pm

I can see your point, but I think there are a number of differences that make

Dec 14, 4:24pm

Regardless of all that, complaining about officiating is a loser mentality

Belboz

Dec 14, 4:35pm

Well you started with my kid is super talented for one.

ordinary tri guy

Dec 14, 4:08pm

What's your point?

Dec 14, 4:18pm

The kid is 8…let’s let him grow a little before you claim he is an incredible

ordinary tri guy

Dec 14, 4:49pm

I never said he's the best. Nor did I say anything about how

Dec 14, 5:02pm

You have a history of looking for validation on CB

SJS

Dec 14, 5:29pm

You said your kid was incredible…why?

ordinary tri guy

Dec 14, 8:26pm

Kids at age 8 mirror their parents attitudes. They hear and regurgitate very little of what their coaches, teammates,

SJS

Dec 14, 5:26pm

I’m surprised this is an issue at all at 8 yrs old. When my sons were 8 and playing comp sports, most of us parents were

Zach Morris

Dec 14, 5:43pm

I think what you're talking about is what I would call "rec" level.

Dec 14, 5:50pm

You’re wrong. It’s not a high level vs rec level thing.

shimmy

Dec 14, 6:11pm

My sons have been playing competitive for several years. To be honest though, at 8 years old it’s hardly “competitive”.

Zach Morris

Dec 14, 6:18pm

Totally agree

SJS

Dec 14, 5:55pm

It’s tough, I’m with you. But like with most things, staying in > quitting

Kevin Arnold

Dec 14, 3:09pm

What’s his CB username?

Odysseus

Dec 14, 3:09pm

Consider competitive golf. I found the parents there to be reasonable/supportive of all golfers. It probably has

HarlemCoug

Dec 14, 3:10pm

Your influence will overpower the others. Hang in there. Your job is to support

Big Daddy D

Dec 14, 3:11pm

See if he can ref a game. Back during church ball I was often

ChiCityCoug

Dec 14, 3:12pm

Keep at it

daJimmer

Dec 14, 3:12pm

Having umpired and reffed club sports and having my kids involved in them over

BYUheaven

Dec 14, 3:13pm

Soooo ... is every kid in that league complaining the way your kid does?

YSMACK

Dec 14, 3:15pm

A majority of them, I bet. I'm not with the other kids on the way home, though.

Dec 14, 3:47pm

Maybe there is a more direct cause.

YSMACK

Dec 14, 6:07pm

Sounds like you’re losing the ride home. Start winning there and I bet your athletic cal special 8 year old will learn

shimmy

Dec 14, 6:15pm

It’s crazy to me because 20+ years ago, issues with parents were almost non-existent when I played. I only remember a

RootieBoy

Dec 14, 3:15pm

My son wouldn't stop complaining about his coach in comp basketball for over a year

CSoul

Dec 14, 3:19pm

My son plays in a high-level soccer team. Parents are dead silent.

Dec 14, 3:22pm

I’ve joked with other patents thats how you tell you has the best kids…parents

ordinary tri guy

Dec 14, 4:37pm

I have four sons who have been playing competitive sports for several years now. Not a single one of my sons

Zach Morris

Dec 14, 3:37pm

That’s a you and your kid problem.

Dec 14, 3:39pm

So what do you think I'm doing or not doing to cause the problem?

Dec 14, 3:49pm

I don’t think you’re doing anything to create the issue. Some kids are just naturally prone to be whiny and pouty over

Zach Morris

Dec 14, 3:59pm

You’re the dad. Teach him better. Tell him the whining won’t be tolerated. Come up with the consequences for doing so.

Dec 14, 4:04pm

You're assuming I haven't tried hard to teach him better.

Dec 14, 4:15pm

Obviously your consequences have no teeth considering your kid keeps doing the same bad behavior.

Dec 14, 5:05pm

To be fair, it’s possible that it’s not his fault. Some kids are just wired to be whiny and pouty with sports no matter

Zach Morris

Dec 14, 5:39pm

Sure. But at the same time, we don’t know OverratedHumor and have to at least consider the possibility

SJS

Dec 14, 5:58pm

Well we know that Overrated doesn’t accept responsibility when he breaks the law so why would his kid accept

WDaddy

Dec 14, 8:57pm

For a more positive experience he needs to spend some time on cougarboard

Hiccupless

Dec 14, 3:41pm

This kind of highlights my point.

Dec 14, 3:50pm

Youth sports are disgusting

Dec 14, 3:42pm

That's a good find. I didn't teach them that, though. So nice try.

Dec 14, 3:51pm

Never said you did.

Dec 14, 4:03pm

Hahaha. You just shared it in this convo because it had no relevance at all.

Dec 14, 4:25pm

I think it has all sorts of relevance

Dec 14, 4:26pm

Sure... Enlighten us on the relevance, since you know me so well.

Dec 14, 4:29pm

It demonstrates your over the top competitiveness in 6 to 8 year old sports

Dec 14, 4:41pm

You should tell my kid all you know about his Dad.

Dec 14, 4:49pm

This subthread isn’t strong evidence that you know how to lose gracefully.

garyfan

Dec 14, 6:47pm

RE: Youth sports are disgusting

garyfan

Dec 14, 3:54pm

Hahaha! Oh my.

Dec 14, 5:08pm

Tell him when he plays a perfect, flawless game, he can blame the refs for missing calls

TADOW

Dec 14, 3:44pm

Sounds like a great opportunity to teach your kid to not mimic the examples

garyfan

Dec 14, 3:50pm

Having my kids in youth sports on a military base has been incredible for this

federer

Dec 14, 3:53pm

So you’re saying umpires should carry a clicker, a small broom, and a 9mm?

garyfan

Dec 14, 3:55pm

Haha yes.

federer

Dec 14, 4:33pm

HS endurance sports have no refs and parents are nicer on average

nc-puma

Dec 14, 4:03pm

Complaining about officiating is so dumb

Belboz

Dec 14, 4:28pm

Unfortunately, it’s not limited to BYU games

Dec 14, 4:35pm

I remember people trying to convince me that the Eagles lost a Super Bowl

Belboz

Dec 14, 4:37pm

Seems relevant.

Dec 14, 5:13pm

It’s not just sports, it’s a society problem. When our political candidate loses, we claim unfair elections. When BYU

SpecialT

Dec 14, 5:28pm

Oh, and when our kid is a poor sport, it is the other parents' fault.

YSMACK

Dec 14, 6:08pm

Congrats on having an incredibly talented 8 year old. He might not be that way by 11 so enjoy it!

shimmy

Dec 14, 6:10pm

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