My head is far from being in the sand with respect to youth sports. I have spent the last ten years coaching boys and girls basketball, baseball, softball and football.
My kids behavior is my responsibility to teach and correct if necessary.
I don’t have to allow other parents to have influence if I don’t agree with what they’re doing.
Your kid is 8 years old.
For one, the situation probably isn’t nearly as bad as you are making it out to be.
Second, take the time to teach your kid. Be consistent. Don’t threaten a consequence you have no intention of following through with.
Your kids will be surrounded by bad behavior in school, amongst their peers, at work, etc.. It never stops. We spend our lives judging good from bad.
We can’t blame others if we choose to participate in the same bad behavior.
Teach your kid to make better choices.