If the wife is from Utah and is just going through potential separation anxiety

May 22, 2019
2:11:52pm

kotacoug All-American

From her ‘clan’ in Utah it might be a good thing to get out and expand the wings a little. Short term at the OP’s parents and then find something small to live into.

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Not sure if CougarBoard is the right place for career advice, but here it is...

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 11:06am

Could you present it to your wife as a stepping stone to get ahead?

JollyGreenGiant

5/22/19 11:09am

That salary bump is very small for a move to Cali. The main issue will be if you

BeyondTheMark

5/22/19 11:10am

Not quite sure how you know your parents house is bigger than mine... or why

BoiseBlueCoug

5/22/19 11:11am

Was trying to add comic relief. It's just that we can live there comfortably.

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 11:13am

Sorry... I was joking as well. Assumed you meant to type that their house was

BoiseBlueCoug

5/22/19 11:14am

It worked, I liked it

Born2Fish

5/22/19 11:17am

so in addition to a 20k raise you'd have no mortgage or housing costs?

BYUFBDAD

5/22/19 11:11am

We'd either rent or just sell our current house. Parents still pay mortgage but

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 11:14am

My wife and I had to live with my dad for a couple months between our lease ending and our house being built. We didn’t

Nuke

5/22/19 11:26am

lol @ Disney+, it doesn't even launch for 6 months and it's already the go-to

Dissenter

5/22/19 12:44pm

You should pay a portion of mortgage as well. So you have siblings

kotacoug

5/22/19 1:50pm

Nope. I would never consider that

donnerstag

5/22/19 11:12am

"I'm in a dead-end position in a dead-end industry." What other opportunity is he going to wait for?

Grit for Brains

5/22/19 11:15am

A similar opportunity that doesn't lead to his parents' house

donnerstag

5/22/19 11:19am

Do it. Change can really create a lot of growth. It's not all about you or your

SnickSnack

5/22/19 11:18am

The max I could live with either my parents or my in-laws would be about 6

CougBlu

5/22/19 11:38am

I couldn’t do 6 weeks

kotacoug

5/22/19 1:52pm

I would make sure I worked out a rental deal with the parents minimum.

kotacoug

5/22/19 1:52pm

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Buffalo

5/22/19 11:12am

Boss being incompetent in my experience

PortlandCoug

5/22/19 11:14am

Indeed, the only time I’ve ever really considered leaving my job was due to boss

Colorado

5/22/19 11:26am

This would be a dealbreaker for me as well

Joel Tilton

5/22/19 1:05pm

Does your wife work? If not, she is stuck in the house with your parents all day

ochobeeguy

5/22/19 11:14am

I definitely see your desire for a change, but IMO, this isn't it

webster242

5/22/19 11:18am

Thank you for your take. We're blessed as member of the Church to have a

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 1:09pm

If it’s the best way to get out of a dead end job in a dead end industry

KSwiss

5/22/19 11:20am

I wouldn’t consider any job where I couldn’t afford to live there

KingDave

5/22/19 11:21am

I would like to hear aluf1990's take

Sandy Lyle

5/22/19 11:24am

"always better off for being tested from youth"

WJCougar

5/22/19 11:24am

Because it's true. Doesn't make them better, though. And Utah kids

Iman23

5/22/19 11:32am

I’m from outside Utah and think it’s a ridiculous take.

SWP

5/22/19 4:49pm

I would hate this all around.

Philosoraptor

5/22/19 11:25am

You always regret what you didn't do more than what you did do. Do you want to

DoseOfReality

5/22/19 11:27am

You have to move in with your parents? You can't get an apartment? I'm not sure taking a job where

The Dude Abides

5/22/19 11:27am

If you can't afford a place to live, don't accept the job. I don't

Vincent's Picks

5/22/19 11:29am

I'd take a look at this...

FatherOFive

5/22/19 11:32am

I think you have a great idea to live with parents. you can always move out if

Iman23

5/22/19 11:33am

My parents and my mil were here for three days last weekend for my daughter's

LiveCoug

5/22/19 11:36am

^ says the entire millenial generation

BlooGeek

5/22/19 2:36pm

Living with parents will be a big strain on your wife and marriage

darkcoug

5/22/19 11:34am

Everyone is different. I could NEVER live with or next to my Dad, or my in-laws.

DoseOfReality

5/22/19 11:39am

There is an enormous difference between living next door and living with

darkcoug

5/22/19 11:41am

First off, just how big is your parent’s house? Secondly, just how pretentious is the neighborhood?

Texas Hammer

5/22/19 11:37am

The devil is in the details

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 1:09pm

That’s big enough to keep everyone separate...are your parents the

kotacoug

5/22/19 2:06pm

They'd respect our privacy. I'd try to get our own washer/dryer hookups too

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 3:20pm

My Grandpa lived with us for 20 years.

The Count

5/22/19 11:58am

My wife loves and gets along great with my dad. No one gets along with mom...

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 1:09pm

Ok.... that’s more info.... how strained is the current relationship between

kotacoug

5/22/19 2:09pm

Sounds like you are surrendering your independence

WisconsinCoug

5/22/19 12:00pm

Only YOU (and your wife) can decided if this would work for you (and your wife).

Jericho

5/22/19 12:03pm

Wait, I though CougarBoard as only second to prophetic revelation...

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 1:09pm

I don't like sand. Maybe I'm the only one.

Heath Squashwell

5/22/19 12:07pm

Anakin?

Philosoraptor

5/22/19 12:20pm

Obi Wan?!?

Heath Squashwell

5/22/19 1:04pm

Do what’s best for your career. You may live there for 5 years only and find a

BNcoug

5/22/19 12:16pm

Don’t do it

ataylor

5/22/19 12:56pm

Take the new job, but go into it with your eyes wide open.

cougarmeister

5/22/19 1:03pm

A couple of things:

Cheap Seats

5/22/19 1:13pm

I would never live with my parents or in California. Keep looking.

Throwaway59840

5/22/19 1:20pm

If your wife is “panicking,” that’s a huge warning sign. Tread carefully.

russkiejedi

5/22/19 2:09pm

If the wife is from Utah and is just going through potential separation anxiety

kotacoug

5/22/19 2:11pm

Never with my parents. Did it with my wife's for 8 months.

jvquarterback

5/22/19 2:51pm

are you allowed to play video games in their basement?

vabeachcoug

5/22/19 3:54pm

RE: Not sure if CougarBoard is the right place for career advice, but here it

nut-e-professor

5/22/19 4:35pm

The public school I went to is the one they'd go to, its public and amazing

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 9:36pm

Your mom treats you like a child, you won’t make enough to live independently,

SWP

5/22/19 4:44pm

So you can't get housing for what you pay currently plus $20K. Stay where u at.

TAMUCoug

5/22/19 4:59pm

DO IT. Providing for your family is greater than everything else.

valleus

5/22/19 7:04pm

Sounds like your quality of life will be better than most people who live in Ca

Sherlock

5/22/19 9:00pm

Will your folks promptly leave on a mission

kapcreations

5/22/19 9:09pm

I hope your mother isn't anything like George Costanza's mom. but that could be

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