when she was young and so our friend group has really stepped in there. Her mom didn't remarry until she was 12 so all those little girl years was just us friends and her Mom. Naturally, we still have a really close father/daughter/cool uncle relationship. She has grown into a beautiful, intelligent girl. She's athletic, smart, bubbly and just so much of what is good in this world. I like to think my best friend is watching from upstairs so incredibly proud of this girl.

She is in Provo and going to BYU. Dated around a bit during her first year but nothing serious. End of the last semester she met a guy she really liked. They started dating. She never brought him to meet her family but he is from Utah so she met his sisters and parents a few times.

She and I talked about it pretty frequently (honestly this has been one of the most beautiful things in mine and my wife's life. I have a young daughter and I hope we have the same relationship. This girl will talk to me and tell me everything. I love not feeling involved and am grateful she confides etc.) We talked about him and I encouraged her to take it slow, get to know him etc. She can sometimes get attached too quickly. Overall though things seemed to be going well. I met him once when I was in Utah. Took them to dinner. On the surface, nice guy. Going to BYU. Studying business. Cool kid. Loves boating. Dresses like he's from the beach etc. But nice guy. No glaring red flags.

Got a call this afternoon and she was absolutely inconsolable and crushed. Turns out he was on a trip somewhere while she was at a family reunion. Friend of a friend saw that some girl posted about their boating trip/vacation at Powell on instagram. Turns out he had lied to her and said he was going to a family reunion. The lie is that it was a reunion from another girl he was also seeing. She was pretty shocked when there were insta stories of him with his arm around this other girl. Duel wake surfing etc. Posts of them cuddling and the girl writing romantic things etc. I get that things like this happen. They're not married, he owes her nothing etc. But this girl had full trust in him and he never mentioned it. Never once did he insinuate that he was dating others. He asked her to be his girlfriend. He initiated and won her over. She is the incredibly pure and loyal type and feels so betrayed. Breaks my heart. She's never dated someone as serious as this guy so she is going through a whole new experience. First time I've had to deal with those kind of tears in a long time.

Moral of the story is if you have sons it's okay if they are heart breakers. That happens but have them be straight with the girls. She would have been okay if he just said he wanted to date around but the deception is what hurt her.

I also love this girl so I get some people may not agree with this take and that's fine but I think the principle stands true.