your elders, regardless of whether they are family or not. The ironic thing is that it is not enforced by the elders but by the children themselves. It is not uncommon for siblings to "punish" another sibling for talking back or showing disrespect to a parent. So the parents try to be an example of what they want their children to become and it is up to the children to keep each other in line. Parents do correct them, and sometimes in "strong" manners, but the "strongest" ways of discipline are mostly done by the siblings (this included cousins and "2nd" cousins etc.). BTW, the tradeoff is evident if you look, the parents sacrifice all for their children (not a lot of Poly families living in opulent luxury and it's not just because they don't have the wealth, they just don't care about the wealth, they are all about the kids. I will say I have seen some adopt the East Coast way (I say East Coast because this attitude rules out here) which is the first and over arching priority is the induvial first, then the spouse, then the kids, then extended family, then friends and so on. I have coached a whole lot of teams out here and it has been so difficult for the parents of the kids to understand that their kid is now part of my family for being on the team I coached. They struggle with this concept. To care as much about their kids and I do my own. And that is what KS feels and how he is. Every single one of his players might as well see him as Dad or uncle, or big brother.
So when it comes to discipline, KS gives them his expectations and then has them police themselves and each other. He expects the players to develop the desire to always choose to do what is best for their team and then for themselves (in that order) while KS will do everything he can to help each individual to become the best player and person they can become. This is why Polys gravitate so strongly to the LDS culture, they are very similar. So to say that KS is not a disciplinarian is not exactly true. It's just how he expects that discipline to be administrated. First by the individuals taking responsibility for themselves and for team captains (big brother of the family) to ensure that discipline is happening. Father speaks, everyone obeys or the siblings "encourage" them to obey. Love and Learn is part of it. Learn what each player needs to do and become then do it and become it because of their Love for their teammates and coaches, it's really that simple.