Bank accounts and passwords are symptoms of a trust problem.

Jan 21, 2020
8:01:04pm

russkiejedi All-American

If there’s trust, you can have separate accounts or a joint account, no problem. If there’s no trust, it doesn’t matter how the finances are split.

"Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."
-Tolstoy

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Author

Time

POLL: How aligned are you and your spouse on family finance/money matters?

Future_Tacos

1/21/20 6:04pm

We almost never discuss it let alone argue.

Slim

1/21/20 6:07pm

The joys of being a filthy, rich doctor. Don’t have to stress about finances.

SuperTank

1/21/20 6:10pm

I'm just filthy. But, seriously, I grew up super poor. Parents worried and argued about money all the time. Caused me to

Slim

1/21/20 6:11pm

Or you don't have any expenses

SUAVO

1/21/20 6:13pm

RE: We almost never discuss it let alone argue.

Zaphod

1/21/20 6:11pm

I thin one of the best things you can do to increase chances for divorce is

Pretorian

1/21/20 6:14pm

More marriages are destroyed by having a joint account where one blows it all

USMCdad

1/21/20 6:16pm

Is this based on anything?

SUAVO

1/21/20 6:20pm

Yes, the majority of divorced people had a joint account together

USMCdad

1/21/20 7:53pm

oh, I thought you were talking about percentages

SUAVO

1/21/20 8:24pm

what your talking about is one paying no attention to the finances even though

Pretorian

1/22/20 2:35am

It takes a lot to financially destroy like that, that happens when one thinks

Pretorian

1/22/20 2:31am

Have you ever been divorced? Do you know anyone who has gone through divorce

USMCdad

1/22/20 6:40am

2 family members divorced and a friend... all connected to financial secrets

Pretorian

1/22/20 1:30pm

No accusations of porn? That can't be right.

John Doe

1/22/20 2:27pm

financial secrets are usually tied to porn or adultery

USMCdad

1/22/20 2:36pm

I don’t know about one case but my bro and nephew both found massive chunks of

Pretorian

1/22/20 8:59pm

RE: I think on of the best things you can do to increase your chances for divorce is

supertux

1/21/20 6:17pm

I'm not sure it's a good idea to take advice from someone who calls themself "PoopTownLLC"

Wingnut

1/21/20 6:20pm

“Called” past tense.... I’ve learned a lot since then 😜

Pretorian

1/22/20 2:37am

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Buffalo

1/21/20 6:31pm

No. Because you don't have hers.

squidmark

1/21/20 7:00pm

We have joint accounts at 2 different credit unions. I primarily use one, she primarily uses the other,

John Doe

1/21/20 6:41pm

Do you really think it is that big of a deal? I asked my wife for her Facebook password

CDV

1/21/20 7:06pm

She won't be your facebook friend?

Northwest Cougar

1/21/20 7:32pm

I mean, I guess I could push it. I just don’t want to push it too far. She already caved on some things I asked her to

CDV

1/21/20 8:11pm

Thats not just not ideal. Thats wrong

Backcountry

1/21/20 8:19pm

Are you saying I was wrong to push her on it? I was just tired of never spending time with her.

CDV

1/21/20 8:36pm

No. Im saying her behavior is bizarre and probably even innapropriate

Backcountry

1/21/20 8:43pm

That makes me feel better. I thought it was just cultural differences because she isn’t American and I just

CDV

1/21/20 8:48pm

I hope this is TIC

LCcoug

1/21/20 7:42pm

Both ideas make plenty of sense. Separate bank accounts are fine if both work

Nikomedes

1/21/20 7:49pm

Everything you said is fine except that

LCcoug

1/22/20 9:24am

My wife and I have separate social media accounts. I don't know her passwords.

TheWanderer

1/22/20 9:49am

Thats fine too but if she's doing fishy stuff

LCcoug

1/22/20 12:47pm

Not to make light of your situation, but is this a joke? For your sake, tell

vegasnative

1/21/20 9:38pm

I wish it were. When she first came here from Ukraine, my dear Yelyzaveta was

CDV

1/21/20 10:48pm

Bank accounts and passwords are symptoms of a trust problem.

russkiejedi

1/21/20 8:01pm

unfortunately I’ve seen this philosophy crash and burn...

Pretorian

1/22/20 2:43am

I don’t think it’s true that all marriages begin with complete trust, and like

russkiejedi

1/22/20 4:13am

I guess if someone marries a person they don’t trust they either know what they

Pretorian

1/22/20 4:31am

I don’t think the lack of trust is usually obvious to both parties.

russkiejedi

1/22/20 6:01am

That’s a good point, separate bank accounts with shared PWs would work

Pretorian

1/22/20 1:31pm

TNT assumed most CBers have so much money it's not an issue

TNT

1/21/20 7:28pm

RE: TNT assumed most CBers have so much money it's not an issue

russkiejedi

1/21/20 8:14pm

We are currently not aligned

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