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Dec 6, 2024
8:56:08pm

ManicBlue Truly Addicted User

I get that family would be ideal, but often family can't give the quality care needed either.

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ManicBlue

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We’re about to start a joyous $7,000 per month

Future_Tacos

Dec 6, 11:30am

If she saved nothing, why isn't Medicare covering anything? Does she have other

Chester Copperpot

Dec 6, 11:32am

medicare never covers it. Medicaid sometimes does.

Socrates Johnson

Dec 6, 11:39am

Yeah, if she has nothing then Medicaid would probably be an option, but there

Chester Copperpot

Dec 6, 11:43am

That really truly is hard so I emphasize with that. I'm just wondering why you

bulletproof

Dec 6, 11:33am

Some expenses are so large ($84k a year to start in this case), assistance

Florwood

Dec 6, 11:39am

Right, though charity doesn’t involve compulsion. It’s a tough situation, the just answer isn’t clear

WP17

Dec 6, 11:41am

You are being kind. This is greed and envy wielded against others using guilt.

DirtyWater

Dec 6, 12:02pm

Seriously, dude? Maybe chill a bit and have some compassion.

Iman23

Dec 6, 12:27pm

And there it is. Guilt! It isn't compassion to encourage deadly sins.

DirtyWater

Dec 6, 12:34pm

Did she have a house that you could sell? My mother lives in a retirement

RC Vikings

Dec 6, 11:38am

This is very common. Almost every senior couple that I know has a

Dec 6, 11:41am

Yes, this is her "savings"

Dec 6, 11:46am

Which is such a shame. Wasting hard earned money over a lifetime to go into

Iman23

Dec 6, 12:28pm

Some people are dirt poor. When my mom died, my dad sold their double wide

marticorp

Dec 7, 8:20am

That's why my MIL that had alzheimer's lived with us for 5 years. Died in our

Rusty Crab Daddy

Dec 6, 11:43am

Sounds like Medicaid coverage for memory care depends on the state

nova_coug_fan

Dec 6, 11:46am

Can you be compensated as the caretaker (including if you contract

Rhubarb

Dec 6, 11:58am

Medical care of any sort is simply unaffordable at this point

BYU Fan

Dec 6, 11:59am

and sadly, in many cases, that $7k/mo will seem wasted considering the care your MIL actually gets. A family I know

ManicBlue

Dec 6, 12:07pm

Thank you for sharing your experience.

Q-grr

Dec 6, 12:10pm

That sounds like a good deal compared to rates in the Seattle area! Cost in

pspcres

Dec 6, 12:09pm

She is probably in the wrong facility. Medicaid will pay for nursing homes but

Malathion

Dec 6, 12:40pm

*Medicaid

Socrates Johnson

Dec 6, 12:57pm

RE: *Medicaid

Malathion

Dec 6, 2:40pm

Not to sound caulous but couldn't someone in the family care

futbolmaven

Dec 6, 3:29pm

It's nearly a full-time job. Would you be able to do it? Also, how willing would you be to change your MIL's diaper?

ManicBlue

Dec 6, 3:52pm

Yes, it's a burden. But for family? I only ask the question. It's for those

futbolmaven

Dec 6, 8:39pm

I get that family would be ideal, but often family can't give the quality care needed either.

ManicBlue

Dec 6, 8:56pm

Horrific. Ensure she has a DNR/DNI. At this point truly just waiting for death.

EDthoracotomy

Dec 7, 7:40am

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