work how books tell you it does. It doesn't work however your mind thinks it does. It just either works or it doesn't. Your obligation is just to go on dates. You're going go on great dates where you fell like the man....and the girl is going to still think....nope....not into it. You're going go bad dates where you think you screwed everything up by being too quiet or whatever....and she'll be telling her friends you're the guy of her dreams at the same time. It all makes zero sense because there's just so many variations of what people actually like/can put up with and you'll go crazy trying to overanalyze any of it. Nothing wrong with going over some potential questions or whatever pre-date to help with the nerves, but just in general, just roll with it. You don't have be Mr. entertaining. Most people aren't.