unfortunately I’ve seen this philosophy crash and burn...

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Jan 22, 2020
2:43:06am

Pretorian All-American

unfortunately I’ve seen this philosophy crash and burn...

All marriages totally and completely trust each other at first to think otherwise is silly ... then life happens.... most distrust and paranoia is ill founded and is more easily addressed and will take care of themselves if such things are shared at the beginning. If not ill founded then they can be addressed early and openly.

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Pretorian

Previous username: PoopTown LLC
Bio page: Pretorian
Joined: Oct 23, 2013
Last login: Nov 15, 2024
Total posts: 13,698 (19 FO)

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Author

Time

POLL: How aligned are you and your spouse on family finance/money matters?

Future_Tacos

1/21/20 6:04pm

We almost never discuss it let alone argue.

Slim

1/21/20 6:07pm

The joys of being a filthy, rich doctor. Don’t have to stress about finances.

SuperTank

1/21/20 6:10pm

I'm just filthy. But, seriously, I grew up super poor. Parents worried and argued about money all the time. Caused me to

Slim

1/21/20 6:11pm

Or you don't have any expenses

SUAVO

1/21/20 6:13pm

RE: We almost never discuss it let alone argue.

Zaphod

1/21/20 6:11pm

I thin one of the best things you can do to increase chances for divorce is

Pretorian

1/21/20 6:14pm

More marriages are destroyed by having a joint account where one blows it all

USMCdad

1/21/20 6:16pm

Is this based on anything?

SUAVO

1/21/20 6:20pm

Yes, the majority of divorced people had a joint account together

USMCdad

1/21/20 7:53pm

oh, I thought you were talking about percentages

SUAVO

1/21/20 8:24pm

what your talking about is one paying no attention to the finances even though

Pretorian

1/22/20 2:35am

It takes a lot to financially destroy like that, that happens when one thinks

Pretorian

1/22/20 2:31am

Have you ever been divorced? Do you know anyone who has gone through divorce

USMCdad

1/22/20 6:40am

2 family members divorced and a friend... all connected to financial secrets

Pretorian

1/22/20 1:30pm

No accusations of porn? That can't be right.

John Doe

1/22/20 2:27pm

financial secrets are usually tied to porn or adultery

USMCdad

1/22/20 2:36pm

I don’t know about one case but my bro and nephew both found massive chunks of

Pretorian

1/22/20 8:59pm

RE: I think on of the best things you can do to increase your chances for divorce is

supertux

1/21/20 6:17pm

I'm not sure it's a good idea to take advice from someone who calls themself "PoopTownLLC"

Wingnut

1/21/20 6:20pm

“Called” past tense.... I’ve learned a lot since then 😜

Pretorian

1/22/20 2:37am

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Buffalo

1/21/20 6:31pm

No. Because you don't have hers.

squidmark

1/21/20 7:00pm

We have joint accounts at 2 different credit unions. I primarily use one, she primarily uses the other,

John Doe

1/21/20 6:41pm

Do you really think it is that big of a deal? I asked my wife for her Facebook password

CDV

1/21/20 7:06pm

She won't be your facebook friend?

Northwest Cougar

1/21/20 7:32pm

I mean, I guess I could push it. I just don’t want to push it too far. She already caved on some things I asked her to

CDV

1/21/20 8:11pm

Thats not just not ideal. Thats wrong

Backcountry

1/21/20 8:19pm

Are you saying I was wrong to push her on it? I was just tired of never spending time with her.

CDV

1/21/20 8:36pm

No. Im saying her behavior is bizarre and probably even innapropriate

Backcountry

1/21/20 8:43pm

That makes me feel better. I thought it was just cultural differences because she isn’t American and I just

CDV

1/21/20 8:48pm

I hope this is TIC

LCcoug

1/21/20 7:42pm

Both ideas make plenty of sense. Separate bank accounts are fine if both work

Nikomedes

1/21/20 7:49pm

Everything you said is fine except that

LCcoug

1/22/20 9:24am

My wife and I have separate social media accounts. I don't know her passwords.

TheWanderer

1/22/20 9:49am

Thats fine too but if she's doing fishy stuff

LCcoug

1/22/20 12:47pm

Not to make light of your situation, but is this a joke? For your sake, tell

vegasnative

1/21/20 9:38pm

I wish it were. When she first came here from Ukraine, my dear Yelyzaveta was

CDV

1/21/20 10:48pm

Bank accounts and passwords are symptoms of a trust problem.

russkiejedi

1/21/20 8:01pm

unfortunately I’ve seen this philosophy crash and burn...

Pretorian

1/22/20 2:43am

I don’t think it’s true that all marriages begin with complete trust, and like

russkiejedi

1/22/20 4:13am

I guess if someone marries a person they don’t trust they either know what they

Pretorian

1/22/20 4:31am

I don’t think the lack of trust is usually obvious to both parties.

russkiejedi

1/22/20 6:01am

That’s a good point, separate bank accounts with shared PWs would work

Pretorian

1/22/20 1:31pm

TNT assumed most CBers have so much money it's not an issue

TNT

1/21/20 7:28pm

RE: TNT assumed most CBers have so much money it's not an issue

russkiejedi

1/21/20 8:14pm

We are currently not aligned

1/22/20 9:36am

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