Men and women are both attracted to mates who up their social status:

Women up their status with money and power (thus men work to have money and power)



Men up their social status with a beautiful spouse


Thus men and women do all they can with their own skills to find a spouse with equal or higher status…

Less attractive women will settle for men with less. Attractive women will go for less attractive men with power:

Less powerful men will settle for less attractive women.

Unattractive women are in the toughest spot because the clearly powerful men will not chose them… and that stinks for them because of all the genetics involved.


The most powerful men choose the most attractive women with the least annoyances

The most attractive women choose the most powerful men who are also good looking etc. The more money and power the less good looking you have to be.


After marriage if that balance seems to be shaken… we have unhappy marriages and cheating

If a couple can together look beyond those two carnal things and focus on things their brains tell them matter rather their desires… you have marriage magic… which happens about 50 to 40% of the time.

The gospel definitely helps