May have this parenting thing backwards. Job is to be suspicious of everything until trust is earned.

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May 1, 2023
4:40:29pm

Soupie Grandma Sycamore

Then you trust but still verify everything.

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My daughter just texted me to ask how I feel about her getting snapchat when she turns 16 later this month. My response:

jacobugath INSUFFERABLE KNOW IT ALL

5/1/23 4:19pm

That'll be a big fat nope from me.

theOnceler

5/1/23 4:21pm

Don’t do it. No need to have it at all.

TempeCoug

5/1/23 4:21pm

Stick to your guns no matter how much weeping & wailing or "I love you, Dad" daughter eyes.

Soupie

5/1/23 4:23pm

Not a chance

Dark Forest Green

5/1/23 4:23pm

Meh, my kids have it and i know who they are sending to, and i manage their privacy settings.

RSL

5/1/23 4:25pm

Have them show you their personal photo section. I dare you.

Dr MoBYU

5/1/23 4:27pm

I open it without warning all the time. They know that violations result in privilege removal.

RSL

5/1/23 4:29pm

You look in their my eyes only?

Dr MoBYU

5/1/23 4:31pm

I have their passcodes and check that and their stories, saved photos, etc.

RSL

5/1/23 4:33pm

Do you check “my eyes only” it’s somewhat hidden and requires a PIN

Dr MoBYU

5/1/23 4:34pm

Yes. That's why I said i know their passcodes

RSL

5/1/23 4:35pm

Yes. There’s a passcode to get into snap then there’s a PIN for “my eyes only”

Dr MoBYU

5/1/23 5:21pm

My man, this is the third time I'm telling you that i have and do look at that frequently

RSL

5/1/23 5:26pm

BuT dO yOu LoOk At It?

TheWanderer

5/1/23 5:28pm

He wants you to admit that you have found porn

IBC

5/1/23 6:44pm

Pretty strange he keeps encouraging you to look in what he calls “the greatest repository of child porn in the world.”

scootsy

5/1/23 6:53pm

It’s called “My Eyes Only”. Yeah—it’s world’s largest repository of child porn.

Dr MoBYU

5/1/23 4:31pm

If I had a dollar for every time I've heard this and they were wrong . . .

BYU-Ite

5/1/23 4:33pm

Trust my kids until they break it. Then privileges removed.

RSL

5/1/23 4:37pm

May have this parenting thing backwards. Job is to be suspicious of everything until trust is earned.

Soupie

5/1/23 4:40pm

I do agree that we probably parent differently.

RSL

5/1/23 4:55pm

You’d have a buck or two?

Tokolosh

5/1/23 4:37pm

I don't even want my kids to have social media until they're out of high school

jhingman

5/1/23 4:26pm

I have 3 kids with phones and one is a senior in HS and the only social media

TempeCoug

5/1/23 4:31pm

I’m on the same boat. I feel that

Jimmertime

5/1/23 4:40pm

So far we are that extreme. No social media allowed. I will hear her out and lay out why the answer is still no.

jacobugath

5/1/23 4:41pm

We would rather our kids make mistakes while they are still at home and have our

crack

5/1/23 4:48pm

Practice?? The idea is that it never becomes a huge part of their life

Jimmertime

5/1/23 4:53pm

Why did you leave us for 2 years? I missed you.

TCuz

5/1/23 4:54pm

Just had to be gone. Took a break. May need to again soon lol

Jimmertime

5/1/23 4:58pm

There are some areas social media isn't unavoidable. For example, my son is

crack

5/2/23 11:32am

Well that sounds like it is avoidable but it just hard to avoid but I get what

Jimmertime

5/2/23 11:41am

Show them this chart

Cougarclaw

5/1/23 4:36pm

I think I’d feel pretty good that she asked me. Good job dad.

Tare

5/1/23 4:37pm

I thinks it’s because he has control of her phone

Jimmertime

5/1/23 4:40pm

Not gonna happen. Sorry but my kids are gonna be organically raised

Jimmertime

5/1/23 4:37pm

I have five kids. None of them get social media. My oldest is 23 and told me

BYU-Ite

5/1/23 4:41pm

Thank you for this. It’s inspirational.

Jimmertime

5/1/23 4:43pm

This was a rough battle with my girls, but my boys have shown zero interest

Turnpike Lane

5/1/23 4:50pm

With a side order of depression, anxiety and diminishing self-worth

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