Here's how I defined the criteria:

Lived Here: I've had a permanent resident address in that state
Stayed Here: I've spent the night in this place (with the purpose of visiting that place)
Visited Here: I've traveled into that state for a specific visit but didn't spend the night there (or I spent the night there while passing through but otherwise didn't do anything there)
Stopped Here: I stopped here while traveling through the state but it was not my destination and I did not spend the night
Passed Here: I drove through part of this state but didn't stop there
Want To Be Here: I didn't use this one just to keep the map clean
Never Been Here: Obvious