nor am I nor have I been married, but I agree with your basic philosophy. Nothing against the other methods- but I think it should take some time.

I have dated a lot of girls the last five years that were attractive, good members of the church and liked me. I am pretty sure I could have married one of them. The longer I would date them though, the more I knew that we weren't that compatible. Because we moved slow in the commitment area, I was able to break things off pretty easily.