Hawaii has a huge strategic importance to US interests, so I'm not sure it's fair to characterize the military spending as "181 billion coming in from taxes" (also--it's $191 million per your math).
Hawaii reports a GDP of approximately $88.61 billion, or 4.4x your number.
It also has the second highest tax burden in the US (behind Oregon).
I have to imagine that much of its SS income goes to retirees who paid into the system elsewhere and moved to Hawaii.
And in terms of how much a State's revenue comes from Federal funds, well, Hawaii is second best in that category, with only North Dakota receiving a lower percentage of its revenue from the Feds.
Ultimately, if your point is that Hawaii is "upside down" in terms of Federal Funds-to-Revenue ratio, I'm afraid you're simply wrong.