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Feb 13, 2019
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hooscoug
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I think it's fine to share those feelings with your parents.
It's a legitimate concern to have. Do you have other siblings out of the home that share your feelings?
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DraperCoug22
2/13/19 9:00am
You can be annoyed and say something, but it's his choice to ignore you. My
Vincent's Picks
2/13/19 9:04am
Are you bugged because he is taking part of your inheritance? If so tell
Baron
2/13/19 9:04am
We care because we feel he is not progressing and seems completely content.
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 9:07am
Then you should stay quiet. Caring about the money is more reasonable to butt in about.
Baron
2/13/19 9:08am
Thanks for the perspective. And yeah the money is annoying but it's not the
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 9:12am
RE: We care because we feel he is not progressing and seems completely content.
Linescratcher
2/13/19 9:13am
How can he live in their basement, steal their credit cards, not work full time and not be manipulating?
Real G Man
2/13/19 9:08am
I did not read that as he lacks permission to use it. If he is stealing then I would address that point.
Baron
2/13/19 9:10am
is he using credit card? or stealing?
Linescratcher
2/13/19 9:10am
They kind of turn their head and let him swipe, but I've heard them complain
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 9:18am
And if it is about money, still be quiet. It's not your money.
kccougar
2/13/19 9:09am
I disagree. Better to say your piece and move on. If my kids thought I wasn’t being fair to them I’d want them to tell
Baron
2/13/19 9:12am
Sure, it's not our money. But do you plan on giving royal treatment to ONE
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 9:14am
My parents' money is not my money. They can do whatever they want with it. And if they feel like one of my siblings
kccougar
2/13/19 9:19am
Completely true. Let's shift from money, though. Do you disagree with the
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 9:23am
The reason I asked below if the arrangement was bothering your parents
kccougar
2/13/19 9:32am
i *might* feel that way if it were a sibling. probably not, but maybe.
Linescratcher
2/13/19 9:22am
It bothers her more than it bothers me.
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 9:24am
acknowledge that it bothers her w/o letting it bother you. you don't need that
Linescratcher
2/13/19 9:26am
Fair enough! Yeah we don't lose sleep over it, but it is definitely a thing.
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 9:29am
I disagree about the issue of discussing inheritance with your parents. However, I do agree if it is on the in-law side
Baron
2/13/19 9:36am
Parents can do WHATEVER they want with THEIR money. Inheritance should never be expected.
TheLoneCougar
2/13/19 9:40am
IMO it's your parents doing. Sound like empty-nesters that enjoy the company.
coug almighty
2/13/19 9:04am
That's on his parents. If that's what they want, then fine. But they can always tell him to move out and start
Adrielle
2/13/19 9:05am
Yet they don't do that and it is baffling to us haha. It seems so obvious...
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 9:09am
Are you parents bothered by the arrangement?
kccougar
2/13/19 9:10am
They each blame the other for allowing him to live there. When you get them
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 9:15am
It is a tough call for the parents. They aren't doing him any favors but at the
mudpupper
2/13/19 9:09am
For sure. If anything it has taught me that I want to take steps to HELP my kids
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 9:16am
Yep. It's bad parenting to not do everything to help them be on their own.
hooscoug
2/13/19 9:18am
This is how I feel.
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 9:28am
I think it's fine to share those feelings with your parents.
hooscoug
2/13/19 9:35am
The only option I see is for you to work at getting him dates
Joe Banks
2/13/19 9:12am
Best comment yet haha. He seems to have a hard time getting along with girls.
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 9:17am
My parenting style...
Adrielle
2/13/19 9:26am
My late wife's brother is exactly the same
Twin Roots
2/13/19 9:28am
Any mental health issues? ... that can really affect a person. Either way you
AFewThoughts
2/13/19 9:31am
Not your concern. Unless it somehow is impacting your relationship with him or
pink22
2/13/19 9:33am
“Honestly it's a cush life!” Actually that sounds horrible to me.
garyfan
2/13/19 9:40am
Thanks for the feedback everyone. Points taken. Deleting this thread soon.
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 9:46am
This is the best. Plz do not delete.
Linescratcher
2/13/19 9:49am
He is a BYU fan. Don't want this to get back to him in the 1% chance a friend
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 10:37am
I don't think it needs to be deleted. Its good for conversation.
Adrielle
2/13/19 9:52am
Maybe his brother is about to wake up and start reading the thread.
mokelembembe
2/13/19 9:55am
I have a cousin who lived with his parents into his 40s. I assumed he was
pink22
2/13/19 9:48am
My wife and I downsized last year. As part of that, my 26 yr old son moved out
Florwood
2/13/19 10:15am
We had a son like that. Hated working, thought life should take care of him.
LiveY'r
2/13/19 10:28am
Wow, I'm sorry to hear that. I can't imagine losing a child.
Vincent's Picks
2/13/19 10:30am
Thanks for sharing that.
Cachanilla83
2/13/19 10:32am
I really appreciate your story. Thank you for sharing.
DraperCoug22
2/13/19 10:38am
You cannot blame yourself. Suicide is an act that is 100% unpredictable and
vegasnative
2/13/19 10:54am
Sometimes no one really understands - as you said, the pain, that some of these young people
lightmann
2/13/19 12:25pm
In the words of a famous Disney movie, "Let it go."
coolblue
2/13/19 10:39am
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